What can I say to them??

Question

I am going thru a divoirce, my 16 daughter wants to know how I am being treated in court. She knows the judge as put a gag order on me talking about anything regarding court. She really corners me sometimes I just say wait until court. If the other two younger children even hear me say court to them then tell mom and I get another threatening letter from her lawyer saying they will take the kids away permanently . I am at wits end.

Answer 1

She is a child, you are grown.  Tell her you can't tell her anything and she needs to stop asking.  Its called parenting.

Answer 2

I know this is a hard time concerning you kids, the guilt feelings from the divorce, but you have to remember you are the parent.  Sometimes kids forget that cause the parents are going through a vulnerable time. Also, her mom maybe asking her to question you.  Sad when kids are put in between.  You are in control, not your daughter.  Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell them you can't talk about it for the above reason you just explained.  

Answer 4

tell kids that if they bring it up again, you'll go to jail if you answer,. If they keep pressing you, tell them they will be punished beyond their wildest imaginations so cut it out., Say you love them but the law is the law.

Answer 5

You need to talk it to the kids or talk to your lawyer or thejudge tel them the deliema you are facing.

Answer 6

Three words:  NO. MORE. QUESTIONS.  Then change the subject.

Answer 7

I would recommend that you stick to your guns with the 16yr old. Let her know how you feel about her and what you want for her with out getting into the ugly court details.  The most important thing to the children is to know that they are loved and that they aren't going to be forgotten.  

Divorce isn't an easy road and even when the court is done you still have to deal with the ex at least until the last child is 18.  And then there will be the weddings and grandchildren.  Get used to dealing with an ex spouse.

Best of luck.

Answer 8

Just tell her you will let her know when you know, or tell her you will know in a week, or two or in months time

Answer 9

Stick to what you have been saying and tell her that she will have to wait. Doing anything else has dire consequences, right?  You have no other choice.

Answer 10

sweetie your daughter sounds like she is very smart and pretty much knows what is going on she just want you to confirm what she knows. just tell her that you love her and the other siblings and that you want to be in their lives always and that you and mom has to wait for the judge to tell us what we can and can not do because me and mom can not come to an agreement on our own. but this will be over soon and at that point you and i can talk about everything than. and when its over really sit down and talk to her about everything she ask YOU dont voluntary any information. GodBless