What can a guy who is not intelligent do

Question

I'm a 19 year old guy who's life has been a complete bore. No family, no friends, and no respect from my peers.

How does it feel like to be smart?

How does it feel to have a family that loves you, supports you in your decisions in life, people who hug and show affection. I see these people and I think, why wasn't I able to have a life of happiness and joy?

Instead I'm a dumb, tall, alien look guy who's tired of living in an old apartment that leaks all the time. I have no formal education, never graduated from high school. I envy all the other people who are smart, good-looking, and who get affectionate love from other people. I know I can never find people that really care about me, but I just want to know how I can at least find a better place to live the rest of me life in. A part of me wants me to just die altogether, maybe I will be born again into a better life.

How does it feel to be loved! I want to know!

9 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.

Answer 1

maybe your social services can help you find a better apartment

look in local newspaper - free ones - to find a better job

maybe take a course, upgrade, sometimes the courses are free

good luck

Answer 2

I scored the top mark in my state in chemistry, when I was interested in it, but have NONE of the following, and have been suicidally depressed: "No family, no friends, and no respect from my peers.

a family that loves you, supports you in your decisions in life, people who hug and show affection. a life of happiness and joy?"

Mother Teresa, who was revered worldwide, was not an intelligent woman. You don't need to be smart to be a good person, respected and admired by many: it is your ACTS which define you.

I suggest that you try volunteering, even from home, at first, as shown in sections 38 & 47, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris In this way you will come into contact with positive, caring people, and change your focus from useless introspection to productive actions, and who knows where that will lead, later?

One thing is for sure, though: it is a much better path than the one you are on at present: you are at a crossways here and now, and can cross over fairly easily, right NOW, if you want to.

"I know I can never find people that really care about me" is a self limiting belief, and an erroneous one, if examined. How do you know? Are you able to read the future? Such beliefs as these are common with depression, which is addressed in section 2, at ezy build: view page R first, then teen depression, and sections 9, and 13, where much good advice, and many resources are available to those prepared to examine them closely.

Answer 3

Aw hey man, don't be so hard on yourself. My cousin had everything, friends, family, a house in a gated community. And yet, she still committed suicide when she was about your age (maybe even a little younger).

Popularity and wealth don't guarantee happiness.

You're only 19...how can you say you've lived your life? :o)

If you were 91 I'd understand and feel bad for you. But 19, hahaha, cheer up!

It's not worth losing your life at this age. Think of all the places you can go, of all the people you can meet. I met my first girlfriend in the most random place ever....Iceland!

Smarts wise, it's never too late to learn. My grandmother was illiterate and was raped when she was 17, and yet she still managed to raise her 5 children. She eventually became a librarian.

Go to a community college! Unless if you're a convicted rapist or something, there's always community colleges that will openly accept you if you explain your situation for them.

There are also people who care/ will care about you. It just takes a while sometimes to find them =)

Apartment wise, I live in one too. I'm not even poor. I just like the feeling of independence I guess. I live in NYC and everyone lives in an apartment haha.

Don't worry, you will be loved. Just leave your past behind, if that helps.

Chin up! =)

Some final tips:

1. Do not build up obstacles in your imagination. Minimize every so-called obstacle. Difficulties must be studied and efficiently dealt with to be eliminated, but they must be seen only for what they are. They must not be inflated by fear thoughts.

2. This might be the most astute piece of advice. Do not be awestruck by other people and try to copy them. Nobody can be you as efficiently as YOU can. Remember also that most people, despite their confident appearance and demeanor, are often as scared as you are and as doubtful of themselves.

3. Another gem of wisdom: Make a true estimate of your own ability -- then raise it 10 percent. Do not become  arrogant, but develop a wholesome self-respect. Believe in your own powers.

Answer 4

Hey, don't be so hard on yourself. First of all, there are different kinds of intelligence. Maybe you are not "book smart" but perhaps you have other talents. Trust me, the people that I know who make a lot of money never went to college. They found something that they had a passion about and pursued it. What interests you? What makes you happy? If you are not sure, check to see if you can go to the career services office at your local university or college. Even if you are not a student, they may be willing to assist you or refer you to career resources in your community. Also, consider a career as a plumber, electrician, or Heating & Air conditioning technician. With so many people going to college, there is a deficit of qualified people in these fields.

Second, love has little to do with intelligence. You can't rely on others to make you happy.People are attracted to those who are confident. If you find your passion, you will be more confident and happier.    

Answer 5

You write too well to be dumb.  I suspect your "dumbness" has more to do with not finishing school than actual intelligence.

If you're in the US, study a little and take the GED.  Work a day job and take night classes.  I did this.  See if the school has counselors, and if so, take advantage of them.  No family, no love, no, no, no... these are things that an experienced counselor can help you sort out and make peace with.  Yeh, peace cos then it's easier to move on.  You will make new friends and find someone to love.  There just are some necessary steps you have to decide on.

Btw, all those ppl you are jeolous of... don't be quite so much.  Many families have skeletons and some of those are grusomely ugly even though everything outside looks all pretty and nice.

Answer 6

gosh. get a job. then after, save up so you can go back to school. that way, you'll have a bit of self esteem. and everything will follow.

Answer 7

Suggestion:

Pursue furthering your education.  School is a great place to meet people with similar interests and age.  

Also remember you have to be a friend to someone before they can be a friend to you.  Try it on several people, I think we live in a face-2-face starved culture now with so much computer communication now.  I personally don’t like that we email each other instead of getting phone calls.  I would rather have the phone call but it is impractical when communicating to more than one person.  Ask them to have lunch or movie etc...

I am 37 and the biggest lesson I have had learn is that friends move away or get married and things are not the same then.  Family gets busy in their own lives too and don’t spend the same amount or the kind of time when you lived together.   After college I spent most of my days in my career and not expanding friends.  Big mistake, all work and not play will make anyone bored.  It does take a little work.   Sometimes I ask when I am depressed is if maybe I am just bored to tears.

Friends can come and go.  Girlfriends can come and go too.  Have had my heart crushed many times which is worse than not having their love in the first place.

Find a church with outside activities.  Talk to a counselor, once feeling better space out the appointment further apart but keep them going.

Answer 8

Well, I certainly know what it feels like to be depressed, and that's how you sound.

Being loved is wonderful. I know that, too. And I also know that when you're depressed, you don't realize how many people love and care for you.

Have you thought about talking to a therapist of some kind? Or a friend or family member (I bet you can think of someone - no one exists in a vacuum)?

I've been blessed to be intelligent, a gifted writer, and not bad looking. But guess what else - I'm bipolar. And this singular thing has threatened all of the other blessings I've had in life. I am also poor and struggling to get the funds to go to university.

See? No one's life is perfect - even if you're smart, talented, educated, attractive, and rich, there is one thing that is more important than all of those things - having a good heart. No joke. That alone is enough to make you as good as gold to a lot of people on this earth. And it sounds like you have that.

Feel better. Email me if you like

Answer 9

You are fine just the way you are---God doesn't make junk.

Try something else:  try smiling, taking time to listen and show care for others; hug someone; give a compliment; help someone accomplish something.....get out of yourself and help another somehow.

Law of giving and receiving - we get what we give

Answer 10

you are loved.  I love you :)

how does it feel... no different?  Right!  

Because they are taking the gift of love and making it into their happiness, they are feeding off of love.  But you aren't.  You just block love.  

Stop envying and start appreciating all the things you have!  I bet you have loads to be proud of, just go soul searching.  

remember, Krist from Nirvana was tall, and alien looking... he was also very dumb and he kissed Kurt Cobain!  Tall, dumb, alien men do amazing things dear!  You just have to leap out and grab the little sliver of hope!  I believe in you.  

Super models are tall, i bet you could be a supermodel :)

but always remember, you are loved, because i love you :)  

Answer 11

Join the army.