What can be done about him ... i think he needs help ...

Question

i've made friends with this very friendly man. as i've got to know him better, i have noticed somethings that do not sound healthy to me such as him wanting to die by the age of 40 max. he doesnt want to get married or have children because he has claimed to have tried it once and things didnt work out. he actually wasnt even really married but just dated this girl for a really really really long time. he doesnt visit the doctor even when he is in severe pain and says that he deserves it. he almost never sleeps and claims that his daily 5 mile run keeps him going... he doesnt really open up. he talks about what has happened, but doesnt express his deep feelings about it. he has been through some great challeneges in life. i feel like there is something he is not over. and im very worried about him. when i try and point out that maybe he needs help or his way of thinking is not normal, he tells me that im wrong because he wouldnt lie to himself or "i love being outside of the norm". it seems as if he is in denial about the whole thing... and also that he is very weak emotionally. he breaks down and takes things very hard. he expresses no hatred or negative feelings towards anyone but god and he claims thats because he would rather god take him away than the people he keeps taking out of this life. it seems as though he is trying to run from the reality of life. i've done research on depression but i havent gotten any real results. i dont know what i could do to help him. i am very worried to a point where im thinking about this situation all the time. i have to find a way to get to him and make him understand. i believe he has been goign through this for a while now, not sure exactly how long. but i know its been over three years for sure. any advice? i am willing to do whatever it takes. and is something even wrong or am i over analyzing the situation? there is a lot more to his behavior than i expressed earlier ... i tried to sum it up to the best of my ability. otherwise he is a very very friendly person. one of those friends that you cant help but cherish. always there. always willing to go out of his way for you. i mean, you couldnt ask for more from a friend. he claims to not have very many close friends and has told me that he considers me one. he is very close with his family and does whatever he could for them. but he says that right now its all about them but later in life "i want to be selfish for once" and that's when he wants to end his life ... i really dont get it... please give me any advice or feedback you may have.

Answer 1

i cant give you a direct answer for this question. sometimes http://www.gethealthytips.com will help you

Answer 2

i think u shouldnt tell him these stuff that he needs help and hes not normal because hes gonna reallly think that he is insane or has problems and then hes gonna feel in chahrge and think that hey im an insane i can do whatever i want that is what happened to me ppl were telling me stuff and i started to believe it and they werent right i just had a sad phrase in my life...i used to thinkk that way like i dont want to live more than 40 and  it was becasue i had nothing in my life i've ben thurh lotta suff and really didnt have anything ic an focus on or dreweams or anything .. he needs to find dreams and wishes and live to make them come true! get a gf or a wife :) show him the song : HELLO-by Christina aguilera but dont listen it w him becasue he'll [prollly just say ehhh c**p.... but when hes alone he doesnt have to hide anything from anyone and he'll think about it believe me :) gOOD LCUK

Answer 3

Would you be willing to discuss this with the non-emegency police number in your area?  They can refer you to health agencies, so he can get the proper clinical support that seems needed.  

Unless you're a pro, you can't be sure to help, but your insight is excellent.  Please let him trust you, but also help him by guiding the pros to him, as well as him to the resources...  he needs that nudge maybe?