What can calm my 6 year old son at school, he has misbehaving all year? help!?

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What can calm my 6 year old son at school, he has misbehaving all year? help!?

Answer 1

I have a seven year old girl and she talks a lot at school and is bad sometimes at night for me.  In school they have 3 sticks (like 3 strikes you are out) and each time she does something they take one so when she gets home I know if she was good or not.  So you would need some type of note each day on his progress to do this.  So what I do is I go to the dollar store and pick up some prizes, a poster board and stickers.  I make a calender for the month on the poster board and we decorate it.  Hearts for February, Snow flakes for January etc.  Each day she is good she gets to put a sticker on the day if she is bad she puts a line for each time she is bad.  If she gets a sticker so many days in a row she gets a prize out of the bag, (puzzle, sidewalk chalk whatever I get from the dollar store)  You can make it every 3 stickers or whatever works for him but don't make him wait too long or it will seam impossible.  He can't be good every day.  When I drop her off at school I tell her don't lose any sticks today just as a reminder and it's one of the first things I ask her when I pick her up.  It works pretty good for us because we hang it on the wall for anyone who comes to the house to see and she doesn't want other people knowing she is bad.  

For all the people who say beat him, put him in time out, sometimes positive reinforcement works so much better than negative.

Answer 2

How about trying an easy to understand reward system.  First put up a calendar on the frig.  If his teacher gives him a good note for the day he gets a star for that day.  Each day he gets a star he gets to have TV and video game privileges.  If no star,no privileges.  I would also add when he gets 10 stars he gets a video rental or something else he really enjoys.  This system will keep you from nagging too much and will reward him for good behavior at school

Answer 3

Have you had your doctor test him for ADHD?  If not, I suggest you do so.

Answer 4

Poor sleep and diet are usually to blame when kids act out.  rule this out before pursuing ADD or any of the other catch all labels they give kids who misbehave. being that he is only 6 it could also be a maturity issue too.  

Cut out all high fructose corn syrups and foods with preservatives. Stick with eggs and toast for breakfast, yogurts/fruits for snacks, whole wheat crackers and cheese, pasta (preferably whole wheat) etc     Stay clear of soda, etc.    Really stick to this for a month and i guarantee you will see a change.  

Also track his sleep.  he should be sleeping around 10.5 hours a night.  is he?   also, is he a good sleeper or does he get up alot, toss and turn alot, seem tired when he gets up, does he snore?   all of these are cues that he might have a sleep issue which can severely effect a childs personality ( i speak from experience).   if you notice and of these issues see a doctor.  they can head you to the appropriate sleep specialist to help your kids out.  I never gave my son meds to this day and he is well behaved and thriving in school now -

Answer 5

Is he getting plenty of exercise and sleep?  Make the rules clear, take away ALL privileges until he sticks to the rules.  Be consistent.  Do not give in.  You are not his buddy, you are his parent.  Set rules, make punishments and enforce it.  It will be difficult at first, but that phase only lasts a week or so.  When he sees you are serious, he will straighten up.  This approach is better than putting the kid on drugs and labeling him ADHD.

Answer 6

Well first try talking to him about how important you think school is for him, how smart he is and how proud you are of him. Just have a talk with him to maybe get him excited for school. Then you can discipline him in some way to tell him that's not tolerable to act up at school. Don't put your child on medicine! My Mom gave me that stuff when I was a child and it made me feel really sick! I mean home school your child or something better than putting something unnatural in your childs body!

Answer 7

Have you looked into a magnesium deficiency or food allergies? Both of those things can cause behavior problems. My five year old was having emotional/behavioral issues and he ended up having food sensitivites to gluten and dairy. A month after starting his gluten-free/casein-free diet he was a different kid! Here are a few links to articles you might want to check out.

http://www.ctds.info/5_13_magnesium.html

http://familyfun.go.com/parenting/child/...

Answer 8

Behavioritoral punishment. Punish accordingly to his behavior in class, and keep him punished until he settles down. this is the only way he is going to stop. No TV, or video games. No outside. Just quiet time and chores to help mommy/daddy.

Answer 9

He could have ADHD, a sensory issue (which gets him agitated because it is too loud, hot, or whatever) or be bored because the class is too slow or easy for him, or have allergies or another health issue that is making him cranky, or a combination of any of those.

Answer 10

This is a simple answer all you have to do is give the teacher a paddle and tell her she can hit him...

im just kidding actually, there are certain vitamins that you can give him to calm him down, my brother had to do that because he could never saty still

go to vitaminshop.com

Answer 11

I would say ridaline, but most moms don't want to put their children on pills.

Answer 12

Find out WHY he is misbehaving. It could be as simple as he hates where he's sitting in class, or another child is bothering him.. something that can be fixed!!! Hopefully you've met with his teacher on this. You know your son... last year my son went through a terrible year, the poor teacher, what he put her through, but it was because he was bored... and when he's bored, he acts out - he doesn't listen, and he gets in trouble. You may have the same case on your hands!! thankfully he is out of it now, and this year is a complete turn around. He's nine now, but find out by talking to him what is bothing him about school! good luck ♥

Answer 13

no joke and not to sound like I'm judging your parenting skills but hardcore discipline! SPANK DAT A$$!!!!

take everything away from him. TV, Games, all that.

How does he behave at home?

Answer 14

How about you saying something to him? Drugs are not the answer, children have to be responsible for their actions. Teach him that if he misbehaves again there will be consequences dealt at home. What is he passionate about? Take something away, etc.

Answer 15

I get so sick of people saying beat them and drugs like adderal.  Try taking him off sugar and see how that does. You can also try timeouts and reward him for good days. For instance a week of good boy stickers gets him a toy or etc. It will teach him good is rewarded bad is punished. Try starting off with small time frames and increasing them though.

Answer 16

What specifically has he been doing? Make sure he has a healthy breakfast and lunch so no sugar, keep consistent discipline at home, talk to the teacher about what sort of behaviors she sees and what they were caused from so you can find the underlying reason and talk to him about it. Maybe he is acting out since he is frustrated, keep talking to him and his teacher to find out why he is misbehaving and make sure you give plenty of positive re-enforcement for when he does behave.

Answer 17

If you use medication, like Ritalin, it will make your son spacey. Before you do anything you should request to sit in on his class for a day and see what may be triggering these behaviors.

Ask yourself if he does this in your home. If so try small things at home like remained seated throught the duration of homework time or dinner time, etc.

Answer 18

I have a 7yr. old son with whom i'm dealing with the same issue. he gets excellent grades but cannot control himself around the other kids, his teacher now has him sitting in isolation from the rest of the class, so we've taken away his playstation (which is his life lol); until he can be put back with the rest of the class and behave, and he now has to take a notebook to school with him everyday so his teacher can report his behavior.  hopefully this will work, good luck to ya'

Answer 19

Check what he is eating and drinking before, during and after school. I know it sounds funny, but my kids always get way more hyper when they've eaten ANYTHING with orange dye in it. Try changing his diet and see if that helps. Plus, getting enough sleep during the night may help him in all aspects. Good Luck!