What can i do about my marine husband cheating on me?

Question

now i for one am wanting to join the marines in about 4 months. i know all about the honor and courage and things like that. everything the marines stands for. my husband is in the marine corps and we were married for about a year and 1 month and i said you can go home and see your daughter and family, we left on good terms...however when he came back things were different there was tention...this was at the end of june (08) and just 4 days ago his sister told me that he had a secret or well she thought it was my hubby and she said if you get back with her i will tell her your secret...well i got her to give me a name and she said joni...so i asked aaron when i talked to him if he had anything at all that he wanted to tell me any secrets to get off your chest he said no...then i said ok whos joni.. he said oh shes just a friend of kristis (aarons sister) and i said is that so i asked well what did you do, hes like nothing i stayed the night at her house b/c ginger (his daughter) was already asleep. i told him that if he doesnt tell me the truth then he would never hear from me and his son again...so he admitted it, he said if you say it i will answer yes or no...so the first thing i asked was did you have s*x with her...he said yes it took him a minute but he said it...so my question is...if i tell his master sgt...who i have talked to on many occasions about our problems should i tell him that aaron admitted to me that he cheated while we were married about 2 months ago...and another question is i printed out all the phone records for about the past 2 months so i can show his master sgt or whoever how much he has been talking to his ex fiance, is there any way i can get him for infidelity?? and would he lie to his master sgt about cheating??? and i have an email he wrote me saying "i know i should never raise my hand at you" i printed it...and i printed where his sister said ill tell your secret and your hint is joni...aaron does not deserve the name marine and i am wanting to try all i can so his command can see that....people like him are what give the marine corps a bad name!!! and he doesnt deserve the marines!!! so with all the things i have can i get him for infidelity and cheating??? if not what do i need to get to do so??? do i need to record him saying he cheated on me??? thank you so much any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!! semper fi...

Answer 1

tell the MP's and let them handle him

and if Joni is married, tell her husband

Answer 2

You Divorce his Marine a##

Answer 3

Are you trying to make his life miserable because he cheated on you? I don't get how his sgt. would have anything to do or even care about his personal life. I can understand how much this really hurts you but i think the best thing to do is either: forgive & forget OR leave him. You don't want to spend the rest of your life hurting others that hurt you. When someone does something bad, it eventually comes back to them.  

Answer 4

I'm not sure where you are going with this or want to go. To begin with the Marines have nothing to do with hi cheating or not, and have no jurisdiction over your marriage. Telling his Sgt. does nothing legally or otherwise. This is between you two. Collecting all the evidence of cheating doesn't do anything for you unless you want a cause to file for divorce, if so then do it, but he already admitted it to you.

So your options are this, stay with him klnowing he cheats or divorce him and move on. I know what I would do!

Answer 5

He can be dishonorably discharged from the Marines for infidelity but it is very difficult to prove. You would need hard evidence, such as a picture or Joni to come foreword and testify.  There is no rules against talking to an Ex on the phone so that does not prove cheating... although its not right.  So you may try to  get him.... a recording of him saying it might work.  Its up to you hun.  I wish you the best! I'm sorry he's such a slim ball.

Answer 6

Leave him. I would never marry a military man until he is out, why? Party and s*x. My sister went to a base here and picked out 5 guys to dance at her party. two were married. They said they got married to receive better benefits.When there are kids involved that's just wrong. No relationship is worth having if there's no trust, and your hurt all the time your son sees this believe it or not.

Answer 7

This has nothing to do with his example of being a marine and everything to do with you being bitter, hurt and spiteful. Do you really want him to lose his job and income? Do you really want to walk away from this leaving him and everyone else with the picture of you being such an awful person. Have some pride. Walk away from him with your head held high because you don't play games. Leave him thinking he lost something wonderful. Get child support and alimony from him if you can. Hit him where it hurts. Then go and find someone who loves you and treats you like the queen you are.