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What can i do about my needy friend?

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At school, I am quite random, but nice to everybody, it is a private school so there is competition about you has the nicest bag etc etc.

But me and my 4 friends have another friend Jane, she thinks she has everything that we don't, she is constantly putting my friends down, she said that her mum owns 5 businesses, I went to her house it turns out her mum is a nurse, we don’t care what she does, we know we are very lucky and don't boast about it, but Jane lets everyone know about her stuff when it isn't that special, she is always centre of attention, and always thinks she is right and has never said sorry, because she thinks everything is never her fault, what can I do to make her realise that we love her and she doesn’t need to show off or be centre of attention to be our friends.

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  1. What can you do about her needy friend? You make her feel how it feels to have a needy friend. Nuff said :)


  2. She is only insecure about herself. About all you can do is just let it go. I know it is hard and you get tired of hearing it. You may have to get her aside and tell her. Hey, we know the truth, you can stop lying to us and just be your self. We do not care what you have. We like you as a person not what you have. Stop making an issue of everything we could care less, just be yourself please. We want you as a friend. I hope this will help you. Good Luck.

  3. Best thing to do with people like that is to stop hanging out with them, tell her to go suck a goat, or just start making fun of her.

  4. shes just try to fit in

  5. tell her what you just said

  6. It's because she feel threaten because she see her life and is unhappy but she see's you and your friend life and she feels that they are better.  You just have to make her realize that just like her there are problems.  

  7. I think that if you make a big deal when she tells these stories then you may be feeding her ego, thus encouraging her further. If you just roll with it and ignore her when she is being petty or overly competitive or showing off she may realise that it doesnt matter to you and just relax into the group and realise your her friend for who she is rather than what she has etc.

    Failing that you could tell her what you wrote here and it may hit home that way..

    Good Luck

  8. That's a psychological disturb ence called egocentric megalomania.

    Try to convince her to go to an experienced psychologist in order to avoid greater problems when she gets older.

  9. hm, this is a tricky one, I too have a friend who is slightly less fortunate than some of us and so makes up her family is rich and lies a lot about the stuff she has to be centre of attention.

    I think you can go about this one of three ways, ignore what she does, but bite back when she puts you and your friends down..

    take her to one side and say that everyone is getting a bit fed up of her putting people down and never appologising and attention seeking

    or, all of you simply give her the cold shoulder for a short period of time each time she does one of these things,

    one of my friends once said horrible things about each and every single member of our group, so we all gave her the cold shoulder until she realised why it was we were ignoring her and appologised.


  10. This is a wild guess because I don't know her, but she may want to impress you guys so you'd like her!

    I know it sounds strange but some people think that way. When it comes to letting her know that she's a friend and she doesn't have to do this is to make sure you don't leave her out if stuff. The rest I think is best for you to decide because I don't know her or you (although you seem like a really nice girl and a true friend). Maybe you can play some sports together or something along the lines! =]

    Hope I helped tc!! x*x

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