What can i do have tried everything?

Question

i have 8 children aged between 13 & 4 mths and toilet training was a breeze with older ones just did it naturally and my 2 1/2 yr old girl has been fully toilet trained for just about 9mths but now will just stand there and soil her pants there is no medical reason she knows she has to go but will use toilet to wee i have tried everything i can think of ,this has been going on for bout 3 weeks now any advise or ideas wiill be great

Answer 1

Have her do as much as the clean-up as possible...maybe she'll get sick of it and go back to the easier way

Answer 2

my mom had a kid that would do that she has done daycare for 21 years if not longer. so ten kids every day. i wonder if something has change that u wouldnt think of. like her fav toys is broken or lost. brother or sister told her something will happen to her if she poops on the toilet remember she is little she will believe just about any thing. i say just ask her if any thing is bugging her. just sit down and look about three weeks ago and see what has changed down to the smallest thing. could it be that school is starting for the older kids and she doesnt want them to leave or your husband went on a trip for work something. she just might want u mom like u said there is eight kids. she might see it as more time with u. u never know. good luck.

Answer 3

lace em

Answer 4

It's most likely a ploy for your attention. Next time she does it, take her to the bathroom, clean her up without a word, and tell her in a firm, confident voice "I know you'll be able to make it to the potty next time." Let her know that you KNOW she can do it. Don't punish or berate her...it will only make the problem worse. It might take a few tries, but I bet if you stay consistent she will eventually come to use the potty again. Have faith in her, and she will have the confidence to do what you and she both know she can do. It sounds cheezy, but we've been doing this sort of thing with my 3 year old when she does something she knows is wrong, and it seems to be working wonders. I read it somewhere...just can't think of where at the moment. If I find it, I'll post a website here.

Good luck!

Answer 5

If there is no medical explanation as to why your child is acting incontinent, it may be a psychological issue, such as an action in order to get attention.  This is not uncommon in young children.  I would bring her to a child psychologist to see if there are any other behavioral patterns that may be present and to see what kind of treatment is available.

Best of luck!

Answer 6

Probablies enjoys the attention she gets of you lol I wouldnt worry it should pass....

Answer 7

My daughter was potty trained and had been for a few months when our son was born. As soon as he came home, she realized she was getting all the attention and started soiling herself and acting out just to get attention. I guess the same can apply towards younger kids with older siblings. Try some one on one time with your girl, such as a day or even just a few hours of just you and her and see if you can talk to her about the problem.

Answer 8

I agree with Fubes, 8 children is A LOT! Lots of parents have trouble dividing their attention among 2 or 3 kids nevermind 8! It sounds like the 2 1/2 year old is wanting some attention that you may not realize your not giving her. Talk to your doctor they might be able to reccomend a book or a psychiatrist that might help you out.

Answer 9

What is your reaction to the situation?  This is something that children have control of, therefore, if you are very controlling, she could be getting back at you...showing you that she is in control.  I am guessing that naturally, you are making a big deal out of it...because...well...it's not very fun for you to clean up.   Try not to make a big deal out of it...and don't let the other kids make a big deal of it either.  It could have something to do with the new baby as well.  Give her more positive attention when she does things right.

Answer 10

As far as I know it is pretty common for little kids to regress in toilet training at some point especially if they are trained quite young.  I would say it is just a stage and maybe going through the process of training again even though she knows it, it might help.  Another idea is to take notice of what is going on in the house just before she does it.  Have you been tied up with the baby or busy doing something and wants your attention.  My son is 31/2 and about 6mths ago or more he would wet his pants on purpose if he got in trouble, he would tell me he was going to and then would do it, didn't last long.  Also sometimes if kids have been busy playing they will put off going to the toilet which then makes it build up.  Good luck hope you get to the bottom of it. (no punn intended)lol.

Answer 11

maybe you should tell her "no" and keep telling her that or try punishing her

Answer 12

Maybe she has a bit of sibling rivalry with the 4 month old and is doing it for attention - I've had similar.

You could try a star chart with a little reward for each day she doesn't do it and a bigger reward for each whole week.

Other than that you may just have to wait it out. She won't do it forever, she will no doubt figure that it is uncomfortable and not worth doing.

Goodluck.

Answer 13

I saw my friend potty train both of her kids it only took one day all she did was make them sit on the toilet all day and if they ever peed she would say do you want to sit on the potty all day then you better not pee your pants and it worked

Answer 14

I agree that she is wanting attention.  I heard an expert say once time about toilet training...it will happen, even if they are stubborn, not to worry about it because I have not seen anyone in college still not potty trained.  

I know its hard, my three year old started having accidents again after I had a baby.