What can i do if my daughter has been bullied at school???

Question

Today she came home really sad and i noticed something was wrong with her i got to talking to her and found out that a couple of little girls in her class room (shes in 5th grade) have been bullying her and calling her names telling her shes ugly, erasing work that shes doing on her computer, thats bad enough, but today those girls poked her with something really quick that she couldnt identify because she was in line and they just passed quick and did it and said "april fools" she said it hurt a lot and she has a little scab on her arm now. she told the teacher about the bullying and tried to go talk to the principal but she wasnt available so my daughter left her a note. What can i do? im ready to go talk to the teacher and the principal tomorrow morning and want harsh consequences for these hateful girls! i need to protect my daughter! i was wondering if it is possible to make a police report, if so what would that do?? plz give me info on other things i could do. im DESPERATE!

Answer 1

You need to inform the school of the problem. If they are unwilling or unsuccessful at resolving the issues, I would encourage you to contact other schools in your area and find out if you can get her transferred.

You could always try to get a restraining order against those girls, which could mean they get expelled.

Answer 2

Be an active parent around her school, bulling is not tolerable and of course you can make a police report! DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT! Have a paper trail and that way you can prove if anything Else happens and they know you mean business. Dont be shy, its your kid any maybe there is something more going on with the kid that did this and it needs to be addressed.... Good Luck!

Answer 3

Find out the girls last name,find out the phone number and hunt down the mother and have a little chat.

Answer 4

There is a saying, "the squeaky wheel gets the oil", and even if you have to be the bane of the teachers and principal's life, be up there at the school after every incident until this is taken care of. Be plesant always but be persistant. And persistant. And persistant.

You aren't supposed to confront other kids and parents (much is the pity) but what you CAN do is volunteer one or two days in the classroom and be a very tough and scary presence of protection for your daughter.

My daughter was pushed into the pool by big boys during swim training, so I watched her the next day, she pointed the boys out to me (while they watched) and I gave them the meanest 'touch my daughter and die" look, and it must have freaked them out, cause it didnt happen again.

RECORD EVERYTHING in a diary or notebook, complete with dates and names. Regular records have a REALLY strong way of making things happen, as they are almost irrefutable evidence.

Answer 5

imagine if u are desperate how your daughter feels! talk to your baby first because she needs the reassurance that mum will take care of it, that mum is not angry at her and that she is not ugly or bad.

next get so into the face of the class teacher and the principal. there is no way, in this era of incurable communicable diseases that one child is allowed to poke another and get away with it. get the teacher involved so that she is on special look out for your daughter. get the parents of the two girls involved. the message shd be that ur baby is not on her own, she has angry mama bear on her side!

teach ur daughter how to be safe because they will try to revenge- not go to the washroom alone, not stand near those girls. perhaps she can be assigned a different seat/classes? one of the things i have done for my daughter is enroll her in self defense classes. since they teach kids to be disciplined she does not use her skills to terrorize other children, but they all kno u cant mess with a judoka!

Answer 6

Bullying is actually a misdemeanor. The bullies can be charged and taken away for their actions. I would see the principal in charge of discipline and the resource officer in the school. The resource officer can bring the charges on the girls and have them taken away. Just remember to document what your daughter said (time/day/etc) and good luck. Hopefully, the teacher has taken action the day it was reported to her by your daughter. Some students, who are caught bullying, are put in in-house suspension.

Answer 7

I know if it were my son being bullied I would be upset as well because these are our babies... at the same time it is hard because she could get bullied more... I would call the kids parents... or go to the teacher and principle, and ask if you could have a meeting with the girls and the parents at the same time.  kids are more scared of their parents than their teachers and principles.  I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 8

Guns work.

No I'm kidding. Ask her what she is being teased about specifically. go out shopping at better places to get nicer clothes. Cut her hair a new style and maybe some nice earrings.

Just for your information, complaning to the teacher or principal is okay, but if the kids find out, your daughter is going to be tormented even worse I can guarantee it! They're going to call her a taddle tale and all types of things.

Just change a few things for her. Clothing and things are always an easy fix for how she appears. Ditch the girly bookbags and jackets that have pony's on them and buy some nice smelling spritzer (like strawberry).

Hope this helps. Dont tell the teachers to talk to the other kids, it will definately make it worse.

Answer 9

Get the names of the girls and call their mothers.

Call the principal after you talk to the mothers.

If these little brats realize that their actions have consequenses at school and at home...they may think twice before they assault another child.

**********

EDIT

**********

Absolutely...it's bad in any case...but in this day and age...peircing her with something, wether it was a pencil, a paperclip a pin what ever...they assaulted her...and it ABSOLUTELY needs to be addressed.

Answer 10

first you have to report it to the principal, the police can't do anything because it never has been reported. Let the principal know you want to have a meeting with the gilrs' parents, because what usually happens is that the principal tells the teacher, the teacher tells the kids and the kids do it again...don't let this happen, go to their higher authority, their parents.

Answer 11

What about these:

1. Try to enroll your daughter into another school

2. Try to talk to the teacher or/and principal of the school

3. Tell the parents of the bullies that they have been bullying your daughter.

4. Don't try to call the police report..There are worst bullies in high school (I think, since i haven't tried being bullied coz im homeschooling...

5. If your the mother then try to talk those girls to never do it again..

6. If she is a 6th Grader then try your daughter to homeschooling or try another school...

Hope this helps!! ^_^

Answer 12

I know what your daughter is going though. I went through the same thing. Make sure the teacher and principal knows what is going on. You can also go the police and make a police report. That will help some or maybe alot. But you can also put you sweet daughter into another school or privite school, or homeschool. To whatever it take to protect your daughter.