What can i do to control my anger?

Question

My family says I have an anger problem and I think I kinda do but I also think that they are the cause of it. They drive me insane and they are the only people that p**s me off like this. They are indescribably idiotic. But anyways i decided to try to control my anger (since my dad doesn't want to pay for anger management)... so I try really hard to control myself but sometimes i just cant control it. also when i tell myself not to get angry i only get angrier because i cant do anything. i only get angry with the people in my family. but everyone else i know tell me that im one of the nicest people they know.

so... any advice on contolling my anger???

Answer 1

-Breathe to control your feeling

-stress ball

Answer 2

well i am the same way i have a really bad anger problem  an i cant control it  it hurts my b/f alot but i dont no  what to do  an sumone help me  

Answer 3

i have the same promblem.

and my parents blame my friends like there the cause why i'm always angry around them.

but its them.

what i do is watch my favorite movie and just chill out and not talk to them.

and sooner or later it will help.

and think before you say stuff.

and just agree with everything they say but dont do it sarcastically and always agree your wrong even if your right

lol

Answer 4

watch the movie "anger management". I think you can find some tips there....

well as an advice just think positively always. Even if things turn bad, think of its positive benefits and ignore all negative effects. I think having this kind of mindset will not trigger your anger.

Answer 5

Physical excersize always calms me down. Focus on breathing, etc.

Answer 6

Not sure how old you are....sounds like you just need to m********e or get laid.  Or play sports and take it out on your opponents.

Answer 7

any  time  you  feel  an  anger  coming;turn  around  and  go  outside  and  practice  breathing  exercises 7 seconds in 7 seconds out and breath trough  your mouth  the  longer  the  better  if   you  are  a  praying    man ; e-mail  me  and  I'll  send   you  prayers  that  I  used  during  my  time  -out's   and  the    

  word  understanding....

Answer 8

I have to tell you that I just vented about this because my husband has anger issues too.  He's also one of the nicest people who will meet - to anyone who hasn't lived with him.. and for the record they say the same thing about domestic abusers.  I'm genuinely not saying that you will be an abuser - what I'm saying is that, look, you will live with a wife and children some day just like you live in close proximity to your family today - and they will drive you nuts too.  And being angry or exploding around children is just awful to live with or experience.  So before that happens, it's really important that you take this absolutely seriously.  So, assuming that's what you're doing and don't need preached at anymore (!), I honestly think you need to make yourself accountable to someone.  In some form of sport or hobby you have, I would enrol on a course that requires rules and discipline, something that you wouldn't dare for the life of you break the rules on.  Because a lot of this I think is that you guys have no rules or rebel against the ones you have without consequences or without fear of them - or even out of fear of them but by over compensating by being angry as a defense.  For whatever reason you break rules and don't respect others rules enough to master your emotions is something you can look into for yourself.  And perhaps a big part of it is your family and their possibly toxic dynamics.  But to help *you*, I would advise making that commitment to some discipline or training and following through on it.  Also I would watch as many videos, read as many books or blogs or whatever on what it's like to live with this condition, because it is a condition - from the point of view of mastering it, being the victim of it and being the abuser because of it.  the biggest problem I have is that my husband when he throws a fit thinks everyone else is to blame and he's the one being put upon.  That can't be reasoned with.  And saying sorry over and over eventually wears respect thin.  You have no idea just how horrible and emotionally exhausting it is to live with someone who does not control their temper, short of physically lashing out.  It makes you so very ugly that even though you're loved, you're not liked and like all conditions, it gets worse if not treated and spreads to social life, work and eventually yourself.  

Answer 9

www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/youare

Answer 10

Yup, usually people who can't control their anger are actually really nice

Just count 1-10 whenever your getting angry

or picture the person your mad at in their underwear, so instead of getting angry you can just laugh at them.  

Answer 11

Count to ten before reacting.  Sounds stupid, but it works.  I get like that sometimes too and my husband tells me to stop and count to ten.  I get mad when he tells me that but it does work.