Okay...
Me and my good friend Alex are in grade 11 together. For the past year or so, She's been acting very strange. Every once in a while she stops in front of a mirror or a glass door and briefly looks herself up and down and often makes a grimace. Whenever i ask her what's wrong, it's the typical answer, "I need to loose weight".
Sometimes it frustrates me when girls do this to themselves especially when it's one of my friends, particularly her. Sometimes she gets mad and most of the time it puts her in a sad mood.
So i asked her up front a few months ago, "Why are you so upset about loosing weight? your smaller than me!" (I'm a size 18/20 she's like a size 12 or 10). I didn't understand. She explained it to me then, very emotionally, that her dad was the one telling her to loose weight. I was angry. I was on the phone with her once and heard her father come through the door and said something about the dishes. Then, when we walked out, he said to her, "And you need to make that run tomorrow to loose that weight of yours you know, it's not healthy...".
And when i object (i'm a little too-caring and protective) she says, "No... He's right, i really do need to loose weight." And then she'll believe it! And every other time its, "aw... i wish i could wear that-" (when it's HER size) "But i'm too big...". or, "Well, i wanted to buy that bathing suit, but my parents said it would reveal too much of my flabby stomach."
WHAT stomach? Gees... As if teenagers like us have to face through enough problems at school, it's VERY discouraging when parents are no help. They do love her, but sometimes, i don't think they realize that it hurts her whenever they tell her to change herself... like she's imperfect. Since when was any 'body' perfect?
It's hard for me to respect her parents, especially her DAD, if they've said something like that to her. Alex believes her dad saying she needs to loose weight and she gets so stressed about it.
Which is weird, because she's had alot of boys go after her and she just loves it!... but she still feels fat.
No matter what i do, no matter what i say, nothing can change her mind even if i compare our bodies. Once she looked at me and said, "Nah... your so healthy and slim, not like me...".
Seriously, what can i do to convince her that she's beautiful just the way she is? she really is! Every time i tell her she cheers up, but then later on she complains about it again.
I wish she could build her self esteem so she can feel good about herself all the time instead of crashing every time her father says something about it. Her FATHER for cryin' out loud...
What can i do?
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