What can i do to make it less painful???

Question

Hi, im 16 and my girlfriend is 15. We are going to have s*x cuz we love each other. We are ready but shes a virgin and im not a virgin at all. What can i do to make it less painful, she seems to be scared. Girls, i would prefer you answer based on personal experience. Thanx!

Oh, and i know the avatars a girl, its on my friends name so plz dont say im lying or anything.

Answer 1

Make sure you use a condom! Lots of lube and it won't hurt so much.  Make sure you go very slow; don't just shove it into her or anything.  Watch her and if it hurts stop, get more lube, and try again.  Make sure she is turned on and try to calm her nerves as much a possible.  Have fun, but please be careful!

Answer 2

Well my first time my boyfriend and i did it in the shower and it was less painful for me than for my friends that didnt lose it in the shower but jus talk to her a lil while your doing it so she calms down and doesnt tighten up because that will make the pain worse

Answer 3

the first time go slow and easy... and only do it for like 30 mins or until she is in too much pain but if she is fine keep going but not too long only like one hour 30 mins maxium because there will be lots of blood.

Answer 4

I hope you trully love her and your not cheating or planning to cheat on her because something boys don't know is that virginity is the most valuable thing a girl has if she is scared let her be and wait until she comes to you and says she isn't scared if she is scared leave her alone don't push the issue but to make it less painful go into missionary position with you on top and use plenty of lubricant and go really really slow don't just go how fast you want to because you don't know how bad this will hurt her go really slow to open her up after yall have s*x 5 times she shouldn't have anymore pain but before 5 times do not go fast at all if you really love her

Answer 5

Well first of all if you really love your girlfriend you will wait.  Until you are both physically and emotionally ready to take such a big step.  But knowing you probably don't want to hear that, there's really nothing you can do to make her first time less painful...sorry.

Answer 6

I lost my virginity today.

Make sure she is relaxed and really turned on and wet.

Try and digitally pleasure her (fingers)

It may not hurt at all!

It didn't hurt me and my boyfriend is quite large down there.

Oh, and ignore the prat above me. I think you sound very caring that you'd come on another persons account to ask advice how to make it less painful for her :)

Answer 7

If she is a bit scared she is not ready for s*x. If she is frightened she will tense up and it will be more painful than if she was relaxed.if you really love her you will wait until she is a bit older and sure of what she wants.