What can i do to make my girlfriend happy in this situation?

Question

my girlfriend who is 16 is reallllly into dancing, but she is a cheerleader as well. I dont know why, nor do any of the friends we have in common, but her parents are making her choose between danching and cheering. Dancing makes her incredibly happy, and it helps her to live life with a passion. She got a job offer to teach it, and i told her that she should take it, and she said that she wanted to, but that she was going to pick the Cheering in stead. She said that because if she picked dancing her parents would be disappointed with her for changing her mind. Her parents really dont give her enough credit, she makes straight A's and her parents allways find a fault in her schoolwork. It frustrates me that because her parents are perfectionists, she has to be unhappy.

is there any advice you can give to her, or any way i can do something to maybe let her dance on the side or something, i feel horrible for her :(.

thanks for any Help!

Answer 1

I know if i was in her shoes i would want you my boyfriend to tell me how proud you are of me and that i should follow my heart that it doesnt matter what others think.. that i have to do what makes me happy and as long as i am happy so are you! let her know how much you appreciate her..

&& maybe try talking to her parents! && let them know how much pressure they are putting on her and that could lead to her just giving up or going into depression or some **** like that.. parents dont know what stress they put on us kids do they!

Answer 2

ok I read your question, and I read everyone else's answers..Here is what you could do..Support her and tell her take the job..as for the cheerleading why not have her come over on those days and take her up to the school as a surprise for her practices? without her parents knowledge and other days when she has practice have her goto a girlfriend's house who also cheerleads and use them as an excuse to go..if this ends up failing try convincing her parents that she can do both and if they feel she isn't doing enough around the house or something to stop her that you'd gladly help out around there do something you know? regardless of what you choose to do for her she's going to appreciate it

Answer 3

thats such a shame!! i fink the best thing to do would be for you to keep giving her praise and telling her you r proud of her!! but also let her know that she needs to speak to her parents now!- if not then they will rule her life like this forever! tell her that whichever 1 makes her feel best is the one she should choose - no matter how many times she changes her mind its her decision in the long run not her parents!

hope things get better for you both soon - tell your g.f she doesnt need to b unhappy becoz her parents - she is her own person. good luck - hope i helped x*x

Answer 4

It sounds like you're gf should probably have picked dancing. Maybe you should go to a dance class with her one day, and at the end, talk about how much she enjoyed doing something she loves. Then ask her, how would she feel if she was able to do this for a living. Ask her how she would feel if she had the chance and gave it up because two people said it wouldn't happen. Really make her think. She's making a decision that is going to effect the rest of her life. Her parents are not going to be around to control her forever, and if they see her passion and her happiness I can't see why they wouldn't tolerate a dancing career. She's obviously good if she was already offered a job. Sometimes we have to ignore what our parents want and do whats going to make us happy in the long run. Regret is avoidable. Butttt, if theres no getting through to her. Go dancing with her whenever you get the chance and let her know you'll be there to support something that she loves, even if her parents won't. Encourage her to pursue dance & cheering and not think she has to choose just one and give up the other. Words can work wonders. Hope this helped.

~Jessica~

Answer 5

Encourage her to take the job, she knows whats best from her point of view but you know whats best for her as an outside person looking in to the situation.  Always compliment her on her smarts and how well she does in school.  Tell her to never stop believing.  Little acts of kindness and encouragment go so long in the cycle of things...