What can i do to make the time pass while my husband is deployed?

Question

We were just married 8/19/08 and we spent every waking moment together until we did... now we are going to continue to do that until he deploys in October... What am i going to do with myself when he deploys.... I want to make the time fly by! HELP!

Answer 1

Try volunteering and getting out into the community. Your husband is doing something for his country and community so maybe you should too.

Take some part time courses or a part time job. If you don't have children you need to take care of then you have unlimited possibilities and an unlimited schedule to do them in.

Stop thinking about being alone and start thinking about all the great stuff you can tell him about when he gets back.

Answer 2

Tie yourself up, lock yourself in the closet, shut your eyes really tight and sing at the top of your lungs.  You wouldn't want to live a moment of life without him.

Answer 3

The same stuff you did while he was there, minus having s*x and any clubbing you might have done.  So you have no life?  Hard to believe.  Do you have job?  If not, I suggest you get one, or volunteer.  

Answer 4

Honey, the time isn't going to fly by.  My husband and I were the same way before he left the first time...you just have to keep yourself busy.  Spend time with family, friends, do you have a job?  If you are on base the family support should do things that are for spouses of deployed men and women, you will meet others who are going through the same thing.  His squadron should do things for the deployed spouses also.  Keep your head up..  The time will go by, and enjoy it when he gets home.  If ya need to talk, you can send me a message, I know exactly what you are going through.  

Answer 5

Don't know how long you two have been together before you were married or if you have kids.My husband and I have been together for 14 years married for 12 he joined the military 3 yrs. After we got married we didn't have kids yet He was in training for 4 months that was hard being alone and away from him for the first time. The one thing I can tell you to do is first of all stay away from people that are going to stress you out because your going to be stressed out enough. Spend time with friends and family that are up beat and make you laugh or find a hobby of some sort get a part time job. find ways to keep your mind occupied the busier you are the faster time will fly just don't push yourself and tier out. If you need help ask some one to help you out when you need it people are usually understanding about these situations with spouses over seas. My husband was shipped out the first time over seas right after 9/11 and its been non stop. first 2 times he was shipped over Oct. 2001 and Oct. 2003 I found out I was pregnant both times right after he left. Hardest times I have ever faced.with all the stress sickness working full time lots of yard work (Big yard) keeping the house up it was all to much for me and ending up on bed rest with my first. I really took on to much with my sec. child (stress) was on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Now my husband is in Iraq again I'm hoping he'll be home at X-mas this year wasn't pregnant this time and learned to live one day at a time and tell myself at the end of the day that I made it threw another one I also give myself breaks during the week to where I have to let a chore go because Ive realized that I cant do it all, all the time especially with a 3 and 6 yr. old. Its rough but Ive made it threw it better this time than I have the last two deployments with him gone. Just remember to take one day at a time you will get threw it, and so will he also remember to wright him a lot the guys love to get letters from home they need it. Hang in there remember one day at a time.Hang in there.

Answer 6

Hit the gym, take some classes and work. I know my biggest regret was waiting by the phone each night, thinking maybe he'll call. I wish I would have gone to the gym so that when he got back, it was to his hot hot wife!

All I did was work and go home.... work and go home...

You could also try to pick up some new hobbies, like scrap-booking, or maybe even pottery! Think about what you would like to get done, even if it means rearranging the home or painting, or something. And, then... just do it!

OH... and please don't cheat! We have some neighbors on our block whose husband is over in Iraq and she has had about 3 different men that she is sleeping with... Not cool to do that to anyone, let alone anyone in the military away defending our great country.

Answer 7

It is hard to be a military wife.  Deployments are long and lonely.  May I ask how long he is going to be away?  Depending on his branch and rank and other variables, it could be anywhere from two months to a year.  

When my spouse is deployed, it is a very lonely time.  If you are lucky enough to still be around family and friends, I would suggest calling on them.  Spend time with them and keep yourself surrounded by them.  It will help with not feeling sooo lonely.  There are still going to be moments when you feel lonely, I am not going to lie though.  

Usually what I do while my spouse is deployed is I either take a non-credit class for fun at the local community college (such as a cooking, writing, or photography class) or I get a second job.  Whatever I can to keep me busy.  If I opt for the second job, the paychecks from it go into a separate account and I get something special for my spouse or us.  Last time, I surprised him with a two week cruise to the bahamas.  A couple years ago, I got him a big screen tv.  It kept me busy and allowed me to feel like i was spoiling him at the same time.  

I recommend that while you keep busy, you also give yourself time to be alone.  You need to be able to do that, especially as a military wife. Make sure you feel like you are spoiling yourself.  Don't just make PB&J sandwhiches or cereal every night for dinner.  Once in a while, go all out and make something that actually takes effort, even if it is just for yourself.  Have at least one night a week where you really concentrate on yourself.  Whether it be taking a long bubble bath or giving yourself a pedicure, make sure you don't forget to baby yourself.  

If you need someone to talk to that has been there, done that, and still has more of it to go, you can always email me.   Good luck and thank you both for your service!  

Answer 8

Start quilting or do something that will keep you busy.  There are simple projects that anyone can make only if they try.  You can go to a lot of on-line quilt sites and print off the patterns and make them.  Give your husband a kiss for all of us and tell him how much we appreciate his serving our country.  I do hope that he is not gone for long.  God Bless You and your family.

Answer 9

Listen to a former navy wife you need to get a job and you need to hook up with some military wives or some kind of support group.  Its never easy I remember waiting for the time he would come home and remembering the empty bed but it was always the greatest after the kids went to bed and we had a honeymoon all over again.  I wont say its not lonely but you will need to be strong for yourself for him try to get involved with care packages and volunteer groups that deal with what your husband is going through and send lots of pictures letters and cards and ask him if there is anything you can send to make his life easier and maybe people in his company might need some words of encouragement a military wife has to be one of the strongest women its just required take care now and I hope everything stays safe

Answer 10

Well.. do you work? If you don't have kids, you could try and study when he's away? Not only would it make time fly by, but it could be good for the future!!! There's also the usual hobbies you can take on, volunteer, etc, help out other military wives who might have a hard time adjusting if they have kids, etc.

There is a lot of things you can do!

Answer 11

Get a hobby that requires a lot of time.  Get a job.  Keep your brain busy...sorry.