What can i do with my two year old?

Question

So I was watching john and kate plus eight and I see how she is always doing something productive with her kids. My daughter will be two and I feel lame. What things can I do with her. Am i supposed to be showing her how to cut with sissors? I don't feel safe doing that just yet. but what things can I do, I take her to the park every now and then but I need some other creative things to do. Also any ides for her birthday party would be great.

Answer 1

I love John and Kate plus 8. It does seem like they are always doing something but in reality they just film when they are they don't make shows of normal days. So I wouldn't fret that much. When I was younger (much younger) my mom used to take us to the mall in winter and we would walk around looking at the stores (not really buying anything just something to do). Dance, sing and do lots of arts and crafts  who doesn't love finger panting! :D ??!!?? You don't have to have a big birthday bash if you don't want just have a house party if you can and have a character (like Elmo or mickey mouse or whom ever your daughter is into) come to the house and play with the kids. It was always a big hit. Hope I helped

Tara

Answer 2

Keep in mind that Lassie would go fetch help when she realized someone was in trouble!  She knew how to bark in English, no less!

These shows are so abnormally unreal these days that I am surprised anyone watches them any more.  If you relate your family life with what is on "telebision" then you are going to suffer.

The most important two things in a family are:

1)  the father must love their mother so they see that.  Nothing phony, just real genuine love and affection.

2)  both parents must communicate with their children, not simply tell them to stop something because it is irritating, but to explain to them at their level why they should not do something, just as much as to explain why they should do something, as well as to communicate about good things, happy things, relating with them.

You are thinking of "things to do" with your kids as a way to relate with them, aren't you?  That in and of itself should be an automatic part of your relationship, but it is not the way to relate with your kids.

When they color in their coloring books, do you sit down with them and draw your own pictures and talk with them?  Keep in mind that I realize your daughter is not yet two years old, but you know what?  Scientists say that a child learns all of the behavioral patterns he or she will use in adulthood by the time they are 7 years old!  That means if you taught your daughter to be impatient and fearful of wrath for doing wrong, that will be ingrained in her memory for the rest of her life!  If you teach her patience by being patient and just and honest, she will acquire that, too!

Moreover, children learn from WHAT we do, more than by what we say!  They copy us!  If we scold them for something they are copying from us, we have not merely confused them, but we have taught them the value of being disingenuous and deceitful.

Yes, she is too young for even childrens' scissors.  But you can sit down and teach her the things you know how to do.  One person answered that singing and dancing interest little girls, but so does art, making food, growing plants (even in an indoor apartment planter "garden").  There are lots of things.

Also, be observant about your daughter's interests.  If she finds that science fiction television programs interest her, size up what you think about its content and see if you can interest her in things like that, for instance.  If she likes Sesame Street, and if there is a value lesson that a program depicts, talk about it at her mental level and ask what she thinks about it.  She may very well just have been entertained by it and has no idea what to think, but if you ask her about it and talk with her about it, later she may think about it.  It's all part of her development.  A lot of what she learns probably will come as realization AFTERTHOUGHTS, so be observant for the after-affects of her cognizant rationalizing, she may think about something for quite a while or even not think about it until something spurs her memory in an incident a year or two later, and then kazam, "Mother, do you remember what you said about.....?"

Now remember this too.. she is your precious daughter, not your friend!  There is a real difference!   As she grows, your conversations will have more meaning and she will learn valuable lessons she and you will never forget!  She will also seek you as her best confidant until she gets married!  But she will always be your daughter, neither beneath you nor above you, but your daughter never-the-less.

One other thing.  She is two years old now, and next week she is going to be getting married at age 20.  You're going to wonder where those other 18 years went to, and believe me, what I just said is totally true... so take plenty of pictures of her, and relate with her all the time, share your lives together, and she will be a precious reward to you when she's a mother too!

Answer 3

What about singing songs and dancing with her?  My 2 year old loves to sing and dance.  I have a toddler cd and we play that alot.  Also...play dough and crayons with paper are fun.  there is a great thing out there called color wonder.  markers that only work with certain paper...my kids love it!  Finger paint is fun.  My 2 year old loves to dress up and play with her dolls.  You would be surprised at how much a 2 year old can do when you expose them to thing!  HAVE FUN!  :)  I love this age!