What can i say / do to persuade my parents to adopt?

Question

I really want my mum and dad to adopt because my brother's going to be moving out soon and i'm going to miss him. He's my only sibling.

He's leaving home because his girlfriend's pregnant and he wants them to have a place of their own for when the baby's born. I know that once he's moved out i'm hardly ever going to get to see him anymore and i'm not looking forward to that because we've always been really close.

So basically, i'm going to be an only child !

What can i say / do that persuade my parents to adopt ?

Answer 1

The decision to adopt a child is a very serious one, that your parents could not make lightly.   If they really want another child, they might consider it.......but the needs of the children available for adoption are more important than the fact that you would like to have a sibling.

Look at the positive side of this:   you're going to be an auntie!    If you and your brother are close, there is no reason that this cannot continue.    The new baby will be your niece or nephew, and I'm sure your brother and his girlfriend would be delighted to have you babysit sometimes so they can have an evening to themselves here and there.   It's normal for the oldest sibling to leave home and start a new life at some point, and of course your brother must make the baby his number one priority.  But when he sees how much his little sister enjoys the baby as well, it will make him love you more than ever!

Answer 2

Who's to say that the child they adopt would be someone you could feel close to? A random stranger might not be able to fill the hole in your life from your brother leaving home.  Or do you have a friend that is in need of a home and that's who you're thinking of? In that case your parents could allow your friend to move in without actually adopting.

I know what you're talking about, though. When my older brother moved out to go to college, it broke my heart.  Then my other brother and sister left.  And you know, they never came back.  You grow up, you build your own life, things are never the same.  It's life, you have to work with what you've got.

Answer 3

get your brother to help you?

the adoption procedure is not easy, it includes a lot of personal questions and checking motives, past history etc.  Some people find this extremely unpleasant.  It might help if you can find someone who has happily adopted a child and is willing to talk about it.

Answer 4

Ive heard of parents developing mental issues over the "empty nest" but never children.  

Is it the fear of being alone with your parents because they aren't good parents or is abuse happening. Talk to your guidance counselor at school and have her call social services.

Answer 5

He should be obsessed about his child - he's a father!

Get a pet!

Your parents shouldn't adopt to keep you occupied - did you never learn to use your imagination?  Oh, I guess you did and it's obvious with this question!

Answer 6

Haha - so selfish.

You can't expect your parents to adopt a child just to keep you company.

This is life.  Get used to it.

Answer 7

This will be a time for you to grow, and have friends over, and enjoy life.  Life changes, and part of it is sad, like your brother moving out, and part of it is happy, like turning his room into a gym.  Also, offer to babysit for your brother's new baby.  It will not only keep you active, but it will bring the two of you even closer.  Adoption of another child to replace your brother isn't a real reason to adopt.

Answer 8

Do you mean adopt another child? I think that would be your parents decision to make. I'm sure if you tell your brother how you feel and if you are so close he will still see you when he can.

Answer 9

There is probably not much you can do to persuade your folks to parent again if they don't wish to... BUT - you have an amazing opportunity to forge a new identity as "Favorite Auntie" - long before I had children of my own I became a favorite auntie and it really is the best! All playing and fun - no diapers, messes, screaming or discipline.... YOU get to be the one the kids want to see, be with, hang out with and go places with - and then you get to go home... or you can spend the night.. it really is the best role. My niece and I are so close - we shop and chat, IM and get along so well you would think she was my daughter rather than my niece! She always looks forward to our getting together and I am the first person she calls with news - good or bad. You may be losing a brother - but your could be gaining a niece or nephew you can love forever! Maybe your brother's girlfriend will turn out to be a friend also. Good Luck!!