What can i tell my 6 year old daughter who is shy because she is so much taller then the other girls her age?

Question

she stands almost a whole head taller then all of her friends. i have tried explaining that she is like the rest of her family and she is going to be tall. she thinks she is a freak and she slumps to make herself look shorter and still she cant hide her beautiful height. i dont know what else to tell her.

please help.

Answer 1

Tell your daughter that she is beautiful constantly and that everyone is made different. Tell her she is tall because there are things that she can do that others her age can't and they are jealous. Play up to her tallness. I have a 7 year old and he comes home from school telling me what other kids said to him or about him. I constantly tell him they are jealous and hater's because he is the smarties in class, the cuties in his class and that he is a great kid. Self-esteem starts from home. Check out Barnes and noble or your local library there are some great books on how to help our kids deal.

Answer 2

talk to her about other women who are tall...WNBA players, models etc...let her know that being tall is a great thing

Answer 3

Wow, that's tough. My daughter is also much taller than others but we have always talked about it in such positive terms that she enjoys her height. I also know that she will quite probably reach six feet and so we have talked about how she needs to be comfortable with people of all heights, especially boys. But I may be helped out by her inborn temperament. Unlike me, she has never been shy.

I told my daughter about how I always hated being the tallest one in my class when I was in school until I got to middle school and there were girls that were as tall as me or a little taller. Then I was a little miffed because I realized that being tall was what made me special. You can also point out that most models are very tall.

Answer 4

First of all, continue to encourage her. You could try reading her books that have to do with being different. A nice one is called "Chrysanthemum" about a little girl mouse who has a very different name.

I would also tell her about how models can not be short; they are only hired if they are very tall. Another thing I might do is take her to visit with a local women's basketball team (at the college). Ask them if they'll sit with her and talk to her about how they've all been tall all of their lives.

It might also be nice to take her out to the mall, get some food and sit and people watch. Bring some paper, and ask her to point out all the ways that every person is different. Then ask her how you're all the same. Sometimes seeing that every person is just different in their own way can help put her hieght into perspective.

Finally, encourage her to talk about her feelings, without arguing her. Tell her that you love her; that she's tall and you love that about her, and that you also love the insecurity within her. Nothing beats a mom who listens.

Answer 5

Say that being tall has it advantages like playing in parks with height limits or something. If anyone is picking on her for it or she feels like a freak just tell her she isn't a freak and that being tall means you can be just like your family and you will stand out more and people will notice you a lot more. If her friends say anything to her about it then tell her they are jealous because she is so tall.

Answer 6

tell her tall is cool. Most people die to be tall. She's just one of the lucky ones.

Answer 7

My 13 year old daughter is 5'8" and has always been the tallest in her class.  Fortuneately, she is okay with her height and proud of it.  

Tell your daughter that she is certainly not a freak! And being taller won't stop her from having friends in school.  Plus, she may be able to be a good helper for her teachers in school - and because she is taller, her peers might look to her to be a leader.  

I hope this will help.

Answer 8

I think that you should tell her that height isn't a bad thing women strive for height (A.K.A heels). Being taller could actually help her, i.e. sports and finding clothes that are cute, they make more tall clothes than short.

Answer 9

She'll get over it it's probably a phase

Answer 10

i dont think there is anything else you can tell her, why not show her how being tall is wonderful, get her into sports that require height like basketball, or swimming. It looks like she needs to be shown how wonderful her height is not told :) good luck

Answer 11

Tell her that she's meant to be a leader. Her height means people must look up to her.. you can also tell her (since she's 6) that all models are tall. Not only will she be a leader among her peers, but beautiful as well.

Answer 12

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Answer 13

i'm a head taller than all of my friends, and i feel i am well known and quite popular in my year because of it.

being tall has it's ups and downs, but if i had the choice, i'd rather be tall than not be. it's something to be proud and happy about.