What can my manger do to me if I don't show up that day?

Question

My general manager came up to me to yesterday to let me know about a trainers meeting. Well he was giving me heads up since I have kids and it's a day meeting and I work nights. Well my fiancee and I both work at the same place and both of us are trainers in different positions. Normal we have a babysitters but they go back to school and everyone else I know works days they aren't going to take off work so they can watch my kids. Well I have called everyone that I am close to just to make sure no one can. I even told my manger that it's going to be very hard since everyone I know works or goes back to school. Well he said can't you take them to a babysitter or to a daycare. I looked at him and said well my babysitters will be in school on that day and I can't just take my kids to a daycare for one day with out paying for a full -week. Well I have been thinking about looking for a at home babysitter for the day but It's so hard for me to leave my kids with someone I just don't know. I know there are a lot of parents that have to do that but I just can't not even for one day. So I need some advise here should I find a a babysitter for one day? Or should I just explain to him I don't have anyone whats so ever and get wrote up if he does write me up. On top of this I don't even want to be a trainer no longer you don't even get paied more. Oh this is bothering me it's the way he came up to me and told me I think you can find someone to watch your kids for the day don't you think you can drop them off at a day care. Oh the way he said it to me like my kids are nothing. My kids mean the world to me more then that **** *** job. someone please help.

Answer 1

Tell your boss that you can come to the meeting but your bringing your kids.   Is your husband going?  Maybe he can just tell you the info when you get home.

Answer 2

I would just tell, him I am very sorry, but I won't be able to attend the meeting because I can't find anyone to watch my kids and I can't just leave them at home by themselves.  I would attend the meeting if it was possible but it just isn't.

Answer 3

I would tell him you can't come if you can't get child care.  If he ends up firing you, I think you would have a good wrongful termination case against him since you already have an agreement that you only work nights.  If you don't want to be a trainer, then resign from doing it and then you won't have to go to the meeting.

If you get fired, I would also call the district manager and work your way up.

Your boss sounds like a real charmer.  One more reason I stay away from corporate food.

Try Craigslist for posting a babysitter ad.

Answer 4

Here is a news flash.  He doesn't care about your kids.  Are you just saying that you don't want to be a trainer because of this episode, or is it the truth?  You have to realize that your income is just as important as your husband's income.  Don't jeopardize your financial world to spite someone.  Take your kids to one of those highly publicized child care places in town.  They will be okay for a little while.  I wouldn't want a stranger in my house with my kids, either.  Good luck to you.  

Answer 5

Unfortunately, your kids are not his problem.

The worst he can do is fire you.  It's a tough situation but not an unusual one.

Answer 6

You answered your own question" My kids mean the world to me more than that job."  Get another one.