What can one do if your boyfriend wants to have s*x but you dont?

Question

Besides saying NO what else can I do, it's like my relationship is becoming based around s*x. please help!

Answer 1

Think twice about the boyfriend. If he is the right guy he won't press you to so something you don't want to do. Saying no is the right thing for if you go against what you truly feel you won't be happy. What if he leaves anyway? Then you'd have gone against your moral value for nothing.

A relationship should be one of mutual respect not what suits one person.  Never base a relationship on s*x for it's not a foundation just a benefit of a good one.  Stick to what you believe and if the guy excepts that's great. If not he wasn't worth it in the first place.  

Answer 2

Have you tried just phone calls and less going out, or are you too afraid he'll walk ? If you are afraid, then I think you know he only has one agenda, and not a future.

Answer 3

Hi,

I think the truth about him has finally come out!

If he thinks s*x is the most important part of your relationship then that shows what's truly in his heart & it's not love!  What about love? what about what's important to you? If s*x is the basis of the relationship then that's as far as it goes, no love,no respect, no future. Find you a guy who loves you, and let him find himself a s*x partner somewhere else. Because to be totally truthful that's all he's looking for.

  Sorry, but sometimes you have to go thru a few bad ones to find a good one ...but it will worth it to find someone who's real.

   good luck,

   bye bye

Answer 4

easy break up with him because it is obvious that, that's all he wants from you...no one should pressure you to do something you don't want to do....

Answer 5

I think we need a little more info. Have you talked to him about it? When he wants to have s*x and you dont do you tell him you dont or do you just do it? Is it that you dont want to have s*x at all? I mean are you wanting to wait or is it just that you dont want it as much as him? I think some people may be jumping to conclusions about your boyfriend without all the info. They may be right though if your boyfriend is pushing you to have s*x then you have a respect problem and maybe he isnt it this for the long hall. Or it may just be that he has an active s*x drive. I have a very high s*x drive and my boyfriends isnt any where near as high. We talked it out and when he doesnt want to i drop it or i "do it myself" but i made sure that he didnt mine me "doing it myself". relationships are all about comunication. I hope things turn out for ya.  

Answer 6

If he does not respect your wishes then it's time to move on. If your not ready then your not ready!!!!!