What can we do to force a mother to allow me to talk to my daughter?

Question

I had custody of my daughter for 12 years. She turned 12 signed a paper she wanted to live with her mother, she moved there in Dec, 07. Now I do not get to talk to my daughter. Her mother does not answer her phone. I bought my daughter a cell phone, her mother took it from her. They have a house phone, but when her mother found out we had the number, she turned the ringer off and the answering machine. I received a post card from my daughter's doctor that she needs a shot, and a different one stating her dentist appt was changed because of labor day. I have been trying to get in contact with her mother to let her know. Today I called her lawyer's office, they told me I was being unethical by calling her lawyer. How is that being unethical by trying to make sure my daughter gets the medical shot and dentist appt she needs? What can I do to make her talk to me about my daughter? Can I get a court ordered mediation? or anything???

Answer 1

go back to court but don't be surprised if your daughter has changed her loyalty and you  not it

Answer 2

just because your daughter went to live with mom you should still have contact and visitation.. if she isn't following court orders call your attorney

Answer 3

Go to court and fight.

Answer 4

Talk to a lawyer. You have rights too. And also you can get your daughters medical records if you need to, as long as you are the biologocal parent. That way you can go to court and show that she hasn't been taking her to the Dr.  

Answer 5

def. go to court to get a order to see her

Answer 6

I would try to avoid court first!

SO, I would be writing a letter to the mother telling her that you gave your daughter a mobile phone so you could keep in contact with her. Explain that you try to call between the hours of x*x and x*x to talk to your daughter but the phone is always off (or whatever the case). Explain why you want to keep in contact and ask her to explain why she isnt taking the calls. Tell her that if you dont get a response in writing with 14 days then you will have to take the matter further. (Remember to keep a copy of this letter yourself for legal reasons)...

If you get no response take the mother back to court for not facilitating regular phone contact with your daughter. Medical grounds is enough for the courts to sort this matter out!

Maybe you can also consider a "Communication Book". Invest in a small book where you and the other parent can write important appointments, events etc that the other parent should know about. This Book travels back and forth between the homes. Its for the PARENTS only! Helps with those parents who dont communicate verbally so well. Always remember though that when you get the book to photocopy what commincation has been made "incase" the book goes missing!

Answer 7

It all depends on whether your daughter wants to talk to you or not. If she does, then her mother can lose custody of your daughter for keeping you from talking to her. If this is the case, get a lawyer and take her to court.

If your daughter does not want to talk to you, then there is really just nothing you can do.

Her lawyer can't do anything to help you, but if you go through a lawyer, then it will go a lot better