What can you do if you've reached adulthood and have trouble holding down a job because you're father was a ?

Question

loon and your mother never helped, you were emotionally abused

Answer 1

It's hard to do.  Start out in "entry level jobs" for a few years - it's sort of expected that you won't stay in them for a long time so it won't look too bad on your resume - plus, you'll get a better feel for what kind of working environment you need to be successful.  For example, I learned early on that I CANNOT work for more than 1 boss.  Not sure why some companies think that it's OK for 1 employee to report to 2 or 3 different bosses for various projects, and some employees can handle it, but I can't.  I need direction from one person only, and I need consistency.  

While you're figuring that out - get some counseling so you're ready to find a job where you can stay for a while (a couple of years or more) once you've made some peace with the past.

Unfortunately - those old ghosts really never go away, but you can learn how to manage them and how to tell when your problem is really with your job/boss and when your problem is really tied to unresolved issues with your parents.

Good Luck - you're on the right track because you already see a pattern and have a good idea of what the problem is!

Answer 2

you need counselling. What you have been missing in life is a stable caring adult to guide you in your life decisions and challenges.  Many people lack this.  Having a life guide can make or break you.  You need help to get out of the space you are in.  

Answer 3

Don't use that as an excuse. You make your own choices now. Resolve your past conflicts and move on.

Answer 4

You have to take control of you. Get a job and do your best,prove to your parents that you are sucessful.That will be a statement in it self. You are using your parents as reason to fail.