What can you do to discipline a spoiled child?

Question

My stepson is 12 and an absolute nightmare. I think he has psychological problems which the parents refuse to deal with. He throws tantrums like a two year old when he doesn't get his way, blames everyone for what he does, lies and hits his father. This is so out of hand that I think he needs a good spanking. My mom would have slapped my face if I talked back the way he does. But I don't think you can spank a kid anymore without getting in legal trouble. How do you discipline kids without force? Nothing works with this kid.

Answer 1

it is legal to spank a kid and i say spank him, establish authority.

Answer 2

maybe hes confused with so many different adults trying to correct him continuously. He is also a p*****n and raging with hormones which is tough going. Maybe if you try to build an amicable relationship based of friendship and respect you could sit down and have a chat with him.  He probably feels the whole world is against him.

Every kid just wants their own mom and dad together in their own house....hes probably so confused and angry and shows it by aggression and tantrums

Answer 3

Kids need discipline and structure...he may actually be expecting and asking for a spanking...He is testing the limits...If he is not disciplined now he will only get worse..Spank his bottom.

Answer 4

SPANKING is not illegal kids need it or they will end up spoiled. ya my mom would have not been happy with me either if i behaved like that. talk to your husband he isnt to old yet for a good spank  

Answer 5

spank him.

Answer 6

Stop blaming the kid for crummy parenting. You are his stepmother and if you try to deal with him it is either going to come down on you like a ton of bricks or his lazy parents will be like yay somebody else is gonna deal with him. Then you will be the only one that deals with him ever and he will just resent you and it will drive the wedge even further between him and his parents. Either way its a headache you don't need to have. Just tell his dad to get off his lazy butt and deal with his son. Refuse to do it, make him do it. The kid needs for him to do it anyway. Stay out of it. If you have to give the dad an ultimatum tell him his has to at least try and deal with his son or you will not be around him if he is going to be like that. Go stay at a friends or something when the kid comes over.

Answer 7

Why did you become his step mom if hes oh so awful and horrible.

He is going threw alot of pressue at that age and his family is all mixed up its probly very hard for him.

You are in no position to punish him your not his mom or his dad.Theres nothing wrong wiht him being spolit there just showing they love him.

Answer 8

He doesn't need a spanking his parents needed parenting classes whil he was growing up.  His behavior isn't his fault.  His behavior has been learned by his parent's lack of doing their jobs as parents.  You are placing the blame for your stepson's behavior on the wrong person...the blame belongs to his father and his mother.  Tell his father to grow a set of balls as well as a backbone and start parenting his son.

Answer 9

Just ask him what would he do if he had a son like himself  

Answer 10

spank him. thats the fastest way he'll learn