What can you say about the parenting styles in the exercise of authority nowadays?

Question

What can you say about the parenting styles in the exercise of authority nowadays?

Answer 1

Nonexistent. The well mannered and respectful child is a true rarity these days. Children learn early how to push their parents buttons to get their own way .  

Answer 2

I grew up when kids were beat for misbehaving and were taught responsibilities, etc.    The downside of the more violent punishments was that they could be quite violent toward other kids when parents weren't around.   Kids were given the freedom to play in the neighborhood and beyond.    They may have been well behaved at home (mostly out of fear) but you got to see the dark side of these physical punishments when they interacted with other kids and no parents around.

Violent punishments teaches kids to be violent to others.    That's especially true if the kids have aggressive tendencies as it is.

What I know now that you can indeed raise a well mannered responsible child without using violence.    I don't even use the word punishment.   I prefer the word consequences.     I know it may mean the same thing but punishment reminds me too much of beatings.   Personal hangup over the word I guess.

Answer 3

My parents and grandparents remind me a lot of how they got hit in the head with all kinds of things... beaten, had to work in the garden, etc.. These things made them good people and hard workers I would have to agree.

However, there is several parenting techniques that you can use. Everyone is different so therefor they are going to do and use different things. Whatever works you should go with.

If I had kids I do not think I would ever hit them...it would hurt me to bad :( lol. But... time out doesn't always work. Children need guiding, this needs to be started at a early age so they understand the meaning of discipline.

DO NOT wait until your child is around the age of 8 or 9 to start punishing them...at this point you've already created yourself a monster. When they are young start out with small punishments and then gradually increase it... not saying when they reach age 12 start hitting them with full force. Just start out small and then go up the ladder until you see your child minding you very well...then you can start to come back down the ladder.

Hope that makes sense.