What can you share with a pregnant woman about what to expect.?

Question

when walking into an adoption agency.

Lets assume this woman hasn't made any decisions other then to "check it out"

Answer 1

that adoption is only one choice.  and prior to making that choice, she should make sure to explore all others, including parenting.

ETA: please read lady's comment for all those who think open adoption is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo d**n wonderful and the perfect solution!

btw, you're getting thumbs down because you have just gone against the party line! how sad :-(  the family who did this to you aren't fit to call themselves parents...

Answer 2

You are a very strong women to consider adoption.  I congratulate you for wanting to make the best choice for your baby.  I think it is a special gift to be able to put the needs of your baby ahead of your own needs and do what is best for the baby.

Here is a link to some adoption information.  It is all totally free for the birth mom AND dad.

http://www.providentliving.org/ses/birth...

You can Call Toll Free at

1–800–537–2229

Best of luck to you and your baby.

Answer 3

She will be brainwashed and told how wonderful she is to think of her child's needs first. That every child deserves a family with 2 parents. That they will offer your child material things you can't provide for NOW. I guanrantee, that once that baby is born, you'll find yourself able and capable of doing things you never dreamed of. Your child will be your inspiration to be a better person. You can go back to school and give her a good life. Or not go to school and give her a good life. She'll have her mother's love.

Answer 4

Tell them to find some groups online and talk to them.  Do a google search and ask questions.

Find an outside therapist/counselor and talk to them.

and once that agency had told her that then walk back in the door.  Otherwise if they do not tell you those things, turn around and walk out that door and never cross the doorway again.

Answer 5

I am not sure if you are asking about what she should hear or what she will probably hear in most adoption agencies.

What she should hear is that she has options and that these are the "x,y,and z" resources to help her to support whatever decision she will make.

What she will probably hear is that she is not ready to be a parent, she will be given a list of items that she must buy for her child (including $1500 for furniture and $1000/year for clothes), she will be told to not listen to offers of help from her parents, and she will be told to say that the father is "unknown".

If she decides to give her baby away, she will be called a brave, selfless angel who gave her baby to someone more deserving to be parents who will always honor and respect her.  Then she will be dropped like a hot rock before the ink dries on the relinquishment papers.

If she fights the agency and decides to parent, the agency will report her to social services as a mother who needs to be "watched" and they will try to get the baby at the hospital.

Edited to add - I concur with what "lady" said - she will also be promised an open adoption as "adoption without pain"  BIG, BIG lies!!