What can you tell someone who's about to die...?

Question

Someone i know is about to die soon...

It's a sad thing and all but he is unbelievably afraid of dying

I mean who isn't but still

what can i tell him to be not afraid of death even if you know it's coming soon

Answer 1

Ask him to talk to God about it and he will know peace.

Answer 2

This is a difficult question for me to answer b/c you

didn't tell me @ what level of emotional attachment

you are to this person.

You can start by quoting Woody Allen and tell him

you are not afraid of dying, as long as you don't

have to be there when it happens. Get him to laugh.

You can help him to accept death by being there for

him and comfort him with your love and friendship.

I can tell you what prayers you can both recite, but

since you didn't tell me about his religous faith, I

am at a loss.

The reason he's afraid of dying is b/c he hasn't made

peace with himself and hasn't setteled all personal

accounts.Help him do that. Tell him all is forgiven and

that whatever he accomplished in his life, will be re-

membered by those who knew and loved him. Tell

him how glad you are to have met and known him,

and that he made a difference in your life.

Tell him that he must accept his fate and that you want

him to be brave about it. You want and need for him

to set an example for others. Tell him that if he doesn't

come to terms with his conscousness, he will never

acomplish the serenity  he so much desires. His body

will die, but his spirit and soul will remain on this earth

as a ghost, forever searching for the answers he

he could've found when he was alive. There will be no

eternal peace, just eternal seaching. I assure you, he

will be more afraid of that than just dying.  Be tactfull

and compassionate.

Help him let go!!!

Answer 3

that you will see them again some day in heaven and that you love them and will miss them

Answer 4

Peace and saftey be with you friend

Answer 5

I have had a number of friends who were dying and when I sat with them and held their hands I just let them talk and lead the conversation where they needed to go.  Once they saw that I was comfortable with letting them talk about whatever they needed to they were very happy that they could talk about death and talk about what they were feeling.  Mostly they need to say what they feel--they are the ones who are going through something that we can imagine but have not yet experienced.  We just need to show them our love and compassion.

Answer 6

Well what my grandma says we are in h**l now and when we die we will go to heven

Answer 7

Death to us is soooo final. People don't know what comes after. That's for God to decide, not us. From our perspective, it is FINAL. People have no obvious concrete or tangible concept of anything afterward. So there is fear. Fear of nothingness. Fear of the unknown. Fear of the fear. So my suggestion is to help your friend keep the fear at bay. When he needs you... be there! If he needs you to listen... hear him. And if he needs to hear you, let him know you will be there. AND BE THERE... as much as you can.

Answer 8

Being one with the Lord will ease a lot of fear. God is always by our sides even in the valley of the shadow of death..pray with him and for him. Tell him there will be no pain were he's going. That's a hard one, sorry to hear your friend is passing.

Answer 9

Tell him its life you cant live for ever life passes minute by minute day by day

Answer 10

Try and understand his exact fear of the dying process. He'll never stop being afraid and that's the cold reality of the situation, but you can try and somewhat assuage the fears.

I had a friend who was only 11 and dying from cancer. I remember we sat with him on his bed and just talked, not about death but afterwards. He was a christian and although not all of us were, we talked and acted as though we really believed in heaven. It was the only thing we could do at the time.

It's tough, and it's really going to hurt, but you'll be fine.

Answer 11

well i am not afraid. i am sure there is what we say life after death. if you tell this person when you depart this world just remember to go towards the light. its simple and it will help him be where he watns to be. that i know this is because a person was flat lined 3 times and he went to the light and he found out what is ont he other side. its your God that is there you see on ly light but you have such a feeling of peace and tranquility its unreal. he told me that you just dont' want ot do nothing else. and i also know when you are having ghosts and tuff they have not gotten to the light and they are not happy souls yet. its not bad as god will be there waiting for you and peace take care. pray it helps also. take cae.

Answer 12

Just talk to him about the good times you have had, and how he will be dearly missed. Share pictures, talk about things, and just look at the bright side of things.

Answer 13

Read the Gospel of John to him, and explain how God sent Jesus Christ as a blood sacrifice for the forgiveness of his sins, and rose again three days later to prove that we are immortal in God. Ask him if he believes that his sins are forgiven by that sacrifice, and assure him of God's promise that all who believe will go to HIM.

Answerers, like it or not, it's the only Way to the Father. Everything else will make everybody feel good, but do NOTHING to save his soul.

Answer 14

Just get him drunk and have a good time... no need to dwell on the thought of the inevitable...

At least he knows he's dying and not just here one moment and dead, gone without saying goodbye the next. I think its great to have notice and for it to be expected rather than totally outta the blue and a shock to everyone.

I definately want notice!

Celebrate his life and its ending!

Hey thumb downers, thats cool - any of you care to share your reasons? You must be a bunch of downers... "oh I'm going to die OH NO... i MUST spend the rest of my life being miserable and focusing on DEATH!" yeah good one...

Answer 15

tell him it'll be alright and you love them.

Answer 16

i love you duh

Answer 17

Happy trip!

Answer 18

i love you and 2 god with god dont be afraid and have no worries ur going to be without need or want very soon

Answer 19

Tell them that god loves them. if they haven't asked God to be their savior yet, bow your  heads and pray to let god into their heart.

Answer 20

I feel that it is important to let him know you are there for him.instead of talking about dying,you should talk about all the fun and crazy things you two did together and all the thing you wish y'all could do.make his last days memorable full of laughter,that is the best gift you could give to someone you Love.

Answer 21

he will find peace in his own time. it's like being scared if the dark. when someone tells you that it's going to be fine, you don't really believe it until you decide for yourself that it will be fine. the dying person will have to accept death by himself. as for the people surrounding him, make him comfortable, give him enough assurance but don't force him or he'll get scared even more. what to tell him? the things you never told him...

Answer 22

The best thing you can say is "Tell me how you are feeling, talk to me and I will listen and be there for you".

You cannot ever say anything that will stop someone being afraid, but knowing someone is with you, and cares enough to be there makes most people feel braver.

Holding someone's hand and listening to them tell you what they think and feel will help more than you can know.

Best wishes :-)

Answer 23

I love you.

Answer 24

make sure he does everything he wants to do

and dont forget to say goodbye

you'll regret it for the rest of your life

Answer 25

We are all gonna face death at some point in our lives,so there is no point in being afraid.

Answer 26

Just say...   "I love you"

Answer 27

that you love them and will see them in the next life.

Answer 28

I Love You

Be with him all the time and comfort him

Make him the most important person in the world!

Answer 29

If he's religious, remind him that he is going home, and that life was just preparation for his eternal life

Answer 30

that they were one of the greatest people god gave u the pleasure of  meeting