What causes a woman to be controlling?

Question

What causes a woman to be controlling?

Answer 1

Well, that's a little harsh. Not all women are controlling. Just a few. But those who are-they are controlling because they feel they do everything right and nobody else can do it like them. Therefore, they must do everything. (My sister is exactly like that.) They need to feel that they can take control of any situation so it's ''perfect.'' That's my opinion though :)

Answer 2

I don't know about everyone else but I tend to fall on the "controlling" side.  Mainly because things run so much smoother when we do them the way I set them up.  My hubby is not a planner, he's a great guy but he is a little scattered.  Unless I am checking that things are getting done, they don't get done and sometimes it's just easier to do it myself rather than harass hubby again.  Some women are just more apt to take charge than their hubbies are.  As long as it makes the household work and the man doesn't feel stepped on it works out just fine.

Answer 3

Usually she comes from a dysfunctional family with possibly one or two alcoholic parents.

The chaos of family life was out of her control as a small child and NOW she feels the need to "control" everything to keep her own life manageable.

Answer 4

A man that can't function without her:)

Answer 5

I don't know if this is controlling or not but this is my experience....I had a boyfriend who wouldn't do anything for himself, as in on his won...he couldn't keep a checking account, do his opayment on time and when he was with his friends he felt like he HAD to drink...we we together for 3 months, i had to constently be there to make sure he did what he had to do! Yes it was being controlling but what was worse was it was being like his mother! I don't have kids and i wasn't about to raise anyone else's! So i left...his parents called me and begged me to go back with him! I said no thank you, i'll pass!

Answer 6

Speaking as a " controlling woman" .. I can't say what makes me be the way I am. I know that I LIKE getting my way.. I grew up spoiled. .. guess you can blame it on my mom. As I'm getting older.. I'm trying to learn that it can't always be my way.. and I'm trying to compromise.. but its hard. I like things a certain way.. I like MY way.. I like things to be DONE my way... hope this helps?

Answer 7

The same thing that causes a man to be controlling....low self esteem.  Control is a form of manipulation used when one does not feel they are capable of doing something without it.

Answer 8

Underlying fear and insecurity.  A lot of times it stems from an early dysfunctional family life where that family was chaotic for some reason.  Usually one or other of the parents was controlling as well (whether overtly or passively).  

Answer 9

Insecurity.  Also, it takes two people to create this kind of dynamic in a relationship.  A controlling spouse needs a partner who enables her.

Answer 10

i didn't think i was controlling until my bf said it to me, i was so angry...but after reading these answers i think maybe i am...i know am right most of the time and i  like my relationships to be perfect. i will try and work on it. thanks for asking the question!

Answer 11

Seems like we're all victims of our childhoods.  Maybe she was controlled as a child and that's the only way she knows how to love.