What causes a woman to not be happy about her pregnancy?

Question

My sister in law is pregnant with baby #2. My niece (her first child) is now two and a half years old. My brother is very happy that they are going to have a second child. She couldn't care less. This is the same way she acted while pregnant with their first child. When anyone mentions the new baby or asks her a question like, "Are you getting excited about the upcomming arrival?" she replies in a snippy tone, "no," or "oh well." At least this child is going to have one parent who loves him/her. I have never saw her hug or kiss her other baby, or tell her she loves her for that matter. She is very cold, in general.

Answer 1

It's pretty simpleminded to assume there is one big secret making her irascible.  I'm sure she has multiple reasons.

Support her and don't judge her.  You aren't in her shoes and so you cannot possibly understand.

Answer 2

some poeple just should not have kids, they just dont have the ability to selflessly love another being

Answer 3

Some women don't really want children but feel it is expected of them.  It is super common in our society for women to feel like it is their responsibility to bear children, either for their husbands or because they just always assumed that is what they would do with their lives because all of the other women they were related to did it.  That said, it is possible you just aren't really looking at the whole picture here.  

She may be depressed.  Maybe she doesn't care for kids in general very much or doesn't publicly display affection very often.  It is dismissive to assume she doesn't love her kids.  There could be lots of reasons she is acting this way.

Answer 4

There are a lot of us that are selfish and self-centered.  We want what we want when we want it and you (or the baby) can got to H.

When the pain of loss of friends, family, job, material wealth, etc. gets great enough we ask God for help to relieve our stress and a whole new world opens before us allowing us to reach out to others for the first time and feel good about it.

Until the time that the pain interrupts our self-centeredness; we remain one of those people that can say "No" or "Oh, well" about our own children.

Answer 5

I was like that when I was pregnant with my second.  I was depressed.  But, it stopped after I had him.  Does she breastfeed?  that helps with PPD.

Answer 6

it could just be her hormones or she could just be one of them mothers who doesnt deserve her kids and she should give her kids to people who want them and have been trying for-ever,shes spoilt with children and she still cold and far-away from her life.