What changed all of a sudden ? Did this ever happen to u ?

Question

I mean I was the happiest women on earth When I got married, Till few weeks ago I strongly believed I m luckiest person on earth to have such a loving husband? REcently I have started feeling he is very COLD. No feeling for me. I do not feel that magic in his presence.I do not feel HE IS MINE. I do not feel the chemistry I felt before.

Answer 1

What made you think that he suddenly became cold?

Something might have averted you of his turn around.

Please write that, then I will try to answer.

god bless

Answer 2

The thing as the time passes the maturity comes into a relationship and the two people dont share the same passion as it was in the earliest weeks of marriage...but that doesnt mean that love has faded away,men become cold because they have to handle much more things that gals,so the true fellinghs are there inside but cant be seen...so chill..try to spend some qualty toime with him....n enjoy his touch...being love dby a man is a btiful feeling,.....

Answer 3

time will change the things around you, 5 yrs ago you are a rich person doesnt mean that 5 yrs later you are still rich. same as your situation. you can be as cool as him. why bother when someone is showing attitude

Answer 4

Spend more time with him. talk with him freely. share your worries, angry,  joy with him. tel him to be as ur friend. you will surely be feeling good after few days.

Answer 5

Well first tell me that have "u" ever tried in these few weeks to pamper him. Its not possible that ur hubby is loving u from the last 5 years and all of a sudden he seems to be cold to u. Even if he is, it must have started few months or probably a year ago.

I think u should try a little more different things to pamper him like u urself initiate for making love. Try some s**y outfits (nighties) in the night, some cool lingeries etc. Try n take some interest in his routine life. Try to know about his problems he is facing in the office etc. I mean to say show ur love and affection u have for him to make him think that u really care for him.

I think that will really keep the fire burning in both of you.

Chaos............  

Answer 6

the chemistry will fade and come back talk to him about it maybe he feels the same or he has something on his mind and you notice  

Answer 7

I think now you want to believe that he is the best but some of his negative things don’t let you believe that he is. See dear, it happens after 5 year of marriage. Something missing.  But may be he is busy in his work and might be he also want some change from your side but he doesn’t get it. try new things now.  Like your change your look quite not overall. Change your some styles, be funnier with him. Do something what he likes. And also talk to him that suddenly you are feeling that his love is lost. He will immediately change his behavior and will start to make you happy.  

Answer 8

talk to him and ask  him if he  have any problem in life or in work if there is so try to solve if u can then c the result  may be it work

best of luck god bless u bye  

Answer 9

Well maby you lost it its a terrible thing to say

and im not exsceting u to breakup wiht him

but recindle your relashonship

If you have kids give them to grandma and go on a vaca and u dont ahve money thats fine!

U can stay home do things u like to do?  

Answer 10

You should consult him

Answer 11

I've been married for 4 years and I've felt the way you feel plenty of times but what i did was sat him down and talked with him about it there could be plenty of reasons for him to be acting out this way, in my situation he was so stressed out with work and trying to pay the bills. you should talk to him about it.   GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 12

ask him if he married by his own wish or was he forced to marry... hahah

Answer 13

talk 2 him

Answer 14

First congrats on a great five years.  Second, has there been a change in his job, your total income, a new friend you or he has, change with children, your s*x life, etc.  Think if there has been anything that may be heavy on his mind.  If you can't come up with anything, then  you have to ask him.  He may feel somethings wrong on your end and projecting back to you, or he may be hurting over something that happened.  You haven't mentioned cheating, so I'll assume that you're fairly certain that he isn't.

Answer 15

Rekindle the excitement, romance and curiosity in your husband theings will get like new again!!

Answer 16

Talk to him

Answer 17

Have things changed around the home or work or family for him?  Is he under pressure or stressed about something?

Talk to him, that is the only way you will get to the bottom this change in him.

Answer 18

Hello Rita

All relations go through some rough patches, and maybe your relation with your hubby is going through one, it's more important how do we bring that zing back in our lives rather than brooding over the changes that have happened, as the popular saying goes "Nothing but change is the only thing constant"

Me and my wife also have being married since last 4 years and have had ups and downs in our relationship, however we never controlled each other's lives like a husband wife and have being talking out whenever we had problems even though it ends up in a fight, in fact we are now parents to a baby boy so we are mentally prepared to accept that things would not remain the same as they were before the baby arrived.

First you need to figure out what is bothering your hubby, is there any problem not related to your relationship like his job problem, relatives issue which may be bothering him, in this case you cannot do much to change things rather than be supportive to him at this moment and help him come out of it.

If problems have stemmed from your relation with him and he is not sharing it, try to be normal in the first place rather than showing signs of panic by making him realise that he is not doing things he used to do earlier, because this kind of talk is the most what guys hate, don't try to show him the "Before" and "After" mirror.

Identify if he behaves the same way with other relatives or only you, try talking to him about things that interest him, that may pep his mood up, maybe it's time you may try some innovative love making on the bed to spice up your intimacy.

Also these days it's no longer the seven year itch which made marriages display cracks, 4-5 years post marriage things do start to take different turn, and like all products need servicing, marriage as a relationship also needs servicing :-)

It's due to changing priorities in both of your lives, career, money and family play an important role in influencing your relation, figure out what's among these is causing concern for you. To keep a marriage a happy marriage both of you would have to keep talking, so begin with the talk first, best of luck