What choice would you make if you had to?

Question

A really good looking bf/gf thats great in bed but they dont .

have anything in common or the same morals you do?

A unattractive lousy in bed that has everything in common and the same morals with a great personality?

Which one would you want to spend the rest of your life with? Why?

Answer 1

I'd have to stay single...I 'settled' in a relationship once, and learned that lesson well. A partner is either acceptable to me or not...not having anything in common and having differing morals is unacceptable...lack of sexual compatibility is also unacceptable.

Answer 2

Well I did marry the really good looking guy to which I had nothing in common with, and we got divorced 4 months later.

I met a wonderful man who's average looking and we do have lots in common and definitely the same morals and beliefs. But he is great in Bed! We have a wonderful son and trying for number 2. It's been a great 5 years!

You want to be with someone who you can talk to, enjoy doing the same things and when it comes to raising a family you do want to be on the same page on how to raise your children and give them the same morals and beliefs.

Answer 3

If the unattractive guy is lousy in bed, then he doesn't have "everything" in common with me. And I wouldn't go out with someone who doesn't share my morals or values, no matter how attractive he is...so I have to say, neither.  

Answer 4

I got this email from a friend who has confessed to me that she cannot look at her man and say she loves him deeply; yet, she appreciates him and is going to marry him anyway.

""He is terrible in bed he is not well endowed; but, he gets me off. chose to stay and we are to be married next year because we share the same Christian convictions and we both want the same things in life, family ties, helping others when we can, savings, home life. We think alike in many ways and get along great. We are both touchy feely people who hug like rabbits in and out of bed. He treats me like a queen and has all the qualities I have sought in a man.""

Let me interject here that this is a relationship of appreciation of one for another. They have both been married twice and divorced twice and both have been the caretakers in their previous marriages. Now they spend their days just spoiling eachother and trying to out-do one another with kind acts. IT WORKS FOR THEM. s*x IS NOT EVERYTHING TO EVERYONE.

Answer 5

Neither. You always have the option of Neither.

Why? Because it's healthy to have a good balance of both...

Answer 6

Neither. Look for someone else.

If you'd have to choose, the one lousy in bed. That's 'fixable', teachable. Character and the way you feel about life is not.  

Answer 7

Do you associate love with s*x?

Because that's what your questions suggest.

Answer 8

the one thats good in bed.

At least we would have fun finding something in common.

Answer 9

A unattractive lousy in bed that has everything in common and the same morals with a great personality.

You can always teach them what you like in bed.  Some unattractive people's personalities can actually make them attractive.  I have seen good looking people who become ugly once their mouth opens and words start coming out.  I'd rather have the person who is good on the inside than the eye candy.

Answer 10

A really good looking guy who was great in bed.

Answer 11

Neither, why just settle?

Answer 12

As you grow old together the good looking one will age and might not be that good looking anymore. Then the only good thing about them is that they are good in bed.

I think i'd choose the one whose morals you share & has a great personality. You can teach them to improve in bed & looks aren't everything...maybe they will improve with age.

Answer 13

I go for the unattractive guy, with things in common. You can teach him what you like in bed, and looks aren't everything. s*x gets old after a while ,you need more than good s*x to have a great realtionship.

Answer 14

I'd take the one lousy in bed but everything in common.  That means I would have a lousy 15 minutes 3 times a week, but a fabulous relationship for the rest of the week.  Seems like the better deal.

Answer 15

I'd spend the rest of my life with Guy Number Two.  What would you do if your good-looking husband got ill, injured or something else happened where he could no longer make love to you?  s*x and looks will fade with age.  What if he no longer finds you attractive or s**y and dumps you?  How can you trust or relate to someone with whom you have no common interests or values?  How shallow.

The mate you have everything in common with will be with you always.  You'll grow with him; he will want to learn how to satisfy him.  You will both work toward the happiness of the other.

Answer 16

The one I had the most in common with because the marriage will only be strong if the friendship and personalities work together.  The in bed thing doesn't bother me, because when you are wonderful friends and have a great relationship, you both learn over time about one another's needs and the s*x just gets better.  

Attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder, beauty is on the inside.