What color should my wedding dress be and what color code should my guests wear???

Question

My boyfriend not long proposed to me. We started talking about clothing.l I decide there and then that I didn't want a traditional white dress. I wanted something different. I was thinking of wearing a black dress and the guests wear white but they could get messy as many of them have children please help!!!!

Answer 1

Where what you want but you can't tell guests what to wear. They are guests, not decor.  

Answer 2

you could wear red- represents love

and your guest

black

Answer 3

you can choose the white or ivory color.

there is a site you can check that,they have lots of dressees,also custom-made.

good luck!

Answer 4

Pick out the color/style you want.  Tell your guests what the wedding colors are going to be and how formal the wedding is going to be.

You can still be a dashing bride wearing a black (or whatever color you want to wear) tea length dress.

You'll be considered a bridezilla if you tell your guests what they can or can't wear at the wedding.

Answer 5

Wear whatever color you want, however you cannot under any circumstances tell your guests they must wear a certain color. That is incredibly rude.

Answer 6

Black is traditionally (western cultures) a symbol for death.

And I've never heard of dictating what the guests wear to a wedding - only that out of respect for the bride/groom guests should wear "nice" clothing.

So how about not worrying about what the guests wear and concentrating on what colors you like.

I've seen light colored wedding dresses that are really quite lovely.

Answer 7

if its a fall weddng maybe try the fall colors you wear a copper or bronze color dress and ur guests can wear fall colors. If its a winter wedding icy colors like blues and such.  

Answer 8

You can wear whatever color you please. But you should NOT set a color code for your guests. You can dictate the formality of the occasion (black tie, beach casual, etc), but it is beyond rude to ask your guests to come dressed in outfits of a particular color. They are your GUESTS, not a backdrop to your wedding day vision. The only thing that should ever be asked of them is the pleasure of their company.

Answer 9

You can wear whatever color that you like - but I don't think you can tell your guests what color to wear; if you have a bridal party you could put them in all white and make your dress black...

Answer 10

Well, there are several different options. First off, asking the guests to wear a specific color, especially one as hard to keep clean and hard to find reasonable clothes in as white, can come across as rude. If you wanted to have a black and white wedding, or black-tie, that's generally accepted. So, there's a couple other things you could do. You could opt for a black-and-white wedding (where the guests are asked to wear black and white and they wear black, white, shade of grey, cream, and navy) and have the bridal party all be in one color, or you could have the bridal party be in all black and ask the guests to 'please wear colors in celebration blah blah blah' cause then nobody will wear black (your dress) but everyone's got colored stuff around.

Answer 11

If you want to walk barefoot down the isle in a black dress and a ski mask on your head, carrying a live pheasant, that's up to you.  You can be as non-traditional as your family, friends, and venue, will allow you to be!

But you are right to consider the feelings of your guests and those in the wedding party.  Remember that many people will have to travel a long way to get to the wedding, spending lots of money to do so.  People will get annoyed at having to spend a fortune on very specific clothes just to be at your wedding.  As you said in your question, buying or renting cute little white suits for the kids is going to be very tedious, as it will require more searching than for traditional attire, and white is easy to get messy for kids.

If a couple of the kids fall over on some grass before your wedding, the pictures may not look so cute.

Also consider that your non-traditional attire may be a little harder for you to find.

Answer 12

Wear whatever color you like, black dresses are amazing.  Mine's red and orange.

But I agree with the others about asking your guest to wear a color.  It's one thing to invite guests to wear white, but to tell them they have to?  Some people are not going to go out to buy a white outfit.  I think you can say "the bride and groom requests guests to wear white, optionally"  I know one couple who is asking their guests to wear pink and orange if they want to, which I think is cute.  

Answer 13

I wore a black dress with pink and white accents and it was awesome.  The wedding party wore black and we all looked great.  As for your guests, I have attended "theme" weddings.  You don't have to tell your guests what to where, but let them know if you are having a punk wedding so they can dress to match is they want.  I have been to a goth wedding and it was so much fun to see how into it everyone got!

Answer 14

i hope you have checked out www.offbeatbride.com

Answer 15

You can wear black if you choose. But I would be careful trying to dictate what your guests should wear. They are there to celebrate with you and have fun, maybe a dress color-code isn't the best idea...  

Answer 16

Don't try to dictate what your guests can wear to your wedding--you are not P. Diddy.

Answer 17

You are a horrible host to dictate what your guests wear. Unless you are trying to get a spot on the show Bridezillas.

Answer 18

Have we been watching a little too much of My Super Sweet Sixteen?

I think so.  

You cannot dictate what your guests will wear.  That is the ultimate in rudeness.  You can say Black Tie, but you cannot dictate a certain color.  

Please grow up.

Answer 19

To be honest I feel that black as an anti-white color is a little contrived and obvious, but if that's the color that you really love go for it. Otherwise I would recommend reds/oranges/pinks.

As far as your guests, well, unless you're able to make it theme centered (black and white party, pink passion wedding, etc.) it's not really fair to dictate what they were. Even in theme weddings you should let the theme be known and let your guests decide if they're going to follow it or not.

Hope this helps!!

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