What could it be? What do I do?

Question

There's this guy who works in the same building as my girl friend works. They met a month ago. She told me about the meeting. They started e-mailing each other as friends. Eventually, she says she started liking him, a lot. And he liked her a lot too. They've grown to be real close. They email each other throughout the day (like 25-30 mails a day) and they confess to each other that they like each other a lot. He comes down to see her now & then, calls her, she calls him. She tells me about it though. Sometime she just says, "I really like him a lot, a lot!". Today she said that he had told her that he loved her. She was hesitant to tell me. But, she did anyway. She's very excited about it. She says he excites her. She always says she doesn't love him & that she loves me & only me, but, that she just likes him really a lot. I've told her that I understand & it's ok with me. But, I asked her to remember me & always save the last dance for me. But, I'm kinda hurt over the whole thing. But, I dunno what else to do! Any suggestions? I'm sorry it's too long! But, the twist is, he's married too!

Answer 1

Talk to her. That's the most important thing to remember in any relationship. If something is bothering you about your SO talk to them about it. Try to work things out.

Tell her how she's making you feel. It's really not cool of her to be that interested in another guy. I personally would take all that information and think she was trying to warn me that she was going to cheat on me.

Edit:

Yeah that does complicate things. So you've already talked to her about it, that's good. Not super happy about the crying thing.

I don't know her so your going to have to decide if she was just crying to make you believe her or if she was crying because she realizes how it makes you feel. Like I said I don't know her so it's your call there.

So she admits to you that she really likes somone else, then says that it's only as friends. I'm sorry dude but that's kinda shady in my opinion, but then again I'm not there to assess the situation first hand.

Ok bro, let me ask it this way. You've been together for 3 years now. Has she ever given you a reason to not trust her before? I mean in this same situation, has she given you a reason to not trust her with another man?

If not, then just proceed with caution. Keep your eyes open but don't look for problems. That make sense?

If she has.... well are you sure you want to get married to someone that makes you wonder about their loyalty?

Answer 2

kick her to the curb

Answer 3

THey need to stop if he is married,