What did I do to deserve this?

Question

My mother left my niece at home with me. She is driving me crazy. Mother knows I have enough responsiblity with Special my cat. I don't like babysitting under the age of seven, because they get in everything. Its my day off from work and I just want to shop and get a pedicure. I am also trying to get ready for college. How can I do that with having a three yrs old around. When do I get my space. I have enough problems with a 15 yr. old brother.

I work practically everyday. Give me a break people. I dont even want children. I have enough struggles in my life to deal with.Plus I dont get to hang out with my friends much since they are busy. I need a break from all this stress. Plus I dont have a relationship with my parents well. I am not a child. I just trying to put together my life.

I have not been shopping since last year.

I have a cat and three dogs which are a big responsability

Info on my brother - threw a knife at me and parents did not punish. I blocked it from hitting my face with my hand. I have a scar on my right hand pinky. He also unlocks my door and walks in while I am studying for exams. Throws things at me. When my parents had me drive him with to the hospital to see your niece, he tried to mess with my stering wheel. My parents control my money,car, and which college I want to go to. Do u have any idea what that is like?

I am nineteen just graduated.

I am not a party person, respect my elders,clean my room, honest, dont do illegal things. I dont know why I am being punished.

Answer 1

Wow sounds like your parents are jerks and your brother worse. when you go to work get your cheque and get your own bank account that they don't have acess to, Find a good friend or two and go rent a cheap place together, then you don't have to babysit or deal with your brother. Tell your mom to get your brother to babysit and walk out the door before she gets a chance to argue about it. Your brother , eye for an eye.

Answer 2

Me, me, memememememmmeememememememe!

Wow, ever think the world isn't just about you?

Maybe your mom needed help, a break, you were her last resort, maybe your not being punished,  your just helping out.

Quit whining, babysit your niece, enjoy the fact that your parents care for you, and provide you money.

I wouldn't........you want to be something other than a child?  Move out on your own, act like an adult, be an adult.

Until then, quit your whining, you have it better than most.

Luck

Big secret for you, a cat is NOT a lot of responsibility, it's no surprise that you're treated as a child, you act like one.

Answer 3

I wish I had the problems that you do. Wish we could switch places!  

Answer 4

1st of all, you are an adult, act like one and refuse to watch the 3 year old, that is THEIR responsibility! 2nd if you have a job and are living at home, you shoulda been saving up money,girl, coz u need to get the h**l up outta there. I hate to say it, but with all your animals, you won't get a place of your own very easily. You are gonna hafta make a decision. Look out for you and your safety and sanity, or keep the pets, stay in an unstable, dangerous,stressful home and hope your sicko brother doesn't kill you.  Look for a roommate to share expenses. Look for a good home for your animals, or unfortunately you may have to take them to the animal shelter. I know it sucks to give up animals, but I had to make that choice myself. It was me or them. I wasn't willing to live in a crazy hellhole with crazy parents, that's the bottom line. Basically, go to your boss and get a checking account(a new one) and have your pay direct deposited. That way they can't get your money anymore. Sounds like someone never had your brother tested for ADD. He is outta control. And violent. If you find a friend or other relative to take you in, go. In the long run, it's in your best interest. Teach them that they can't treat you like a slave, you're old enuff to leave and have a right to your hard earned money. If the car is yours, take it. And if they won't let you leave, call the cops, I'm serious. You are not a prisoner. If you own your car or are paying for it and it's in your name, the police have no choice but to make your parents release it to you. Then make sure you empty any accounts they have access to. Time to make some sacrifices. If you don't do it for yourself, no one else will. They won't change, so you need to. Put your foot down.Your family is outta control. They obviously have mental problems, and want you to be just like them. Control freaks!

Answer 5

You sound like a reasonable person and should be complimented on your choice of doing things right. But you are still at home and it is impossible for a mom to not be one while you are there. Instead of being anxious about it, enjoy that your mom cares about you so much. There are millions out there who would love to trade places with you on that issue.

On having to baby sit, think about all your mom has to do for you. Your baby sitting would likely not come close to paying her back. Your mom could probably have asked you nicely but then you could certainly be a lot more appreciative of what she does and feels for you. Give her some slack and thank her once in a while to show her you appreciate it. Your mom will be the one person that you can trust with your life, without question. She is your best friend.