What do I do?? He's driving me crazy!!?

Question

I want to tell this man I'm in love with how I feel. But I don't want to sound desperate or needy. I'm not looking for a relationship right now. I want to tell him without risking the great close friendship we have and tell him for his future information. That I'm available when he's ready. But I don't know what to say!! Can you tell me exactly what to say so I can get an idea?

I don't want to pursue him and I don't want to be the first to kiss or say "I love you" I want HIM to do all those things first before I do.

Answer 1

Your going to have to drop some hints (such as flirting) about you wanting to be more than just friends if you want him make the first move, because he might think at this point that's all you want to be.

You can even ask him if he ever thought of being more than just friends with you...If he asks why, just tell him your just curious...

Answer 2

If you are not looking for a realationship then maybe you shouldnt tell him. Bu from what you made it sound you kinda are because you want him to go for it first. It sounds to me like you need to get it of your chest. Dont be afraid of the consequences. What if he feels like that towards you and is waiting on you. i think you need to tell him you need to get something of your chest. But be sure to tell him it changes nothing towards the wondeful  relationship the two of you have. What do you have to loose? If you are good friends this should not change anything. Say whatever you feel in your heart.

Answer 3

Tell him how you feel, don't risk the chance of a close relationship with him because your scared or old fashion.  

Answer 4

JUST TELL HIM, DON'T BEAT AROUND THE BUSH , BE UP FRONT

Answer 5

Whatever you do, do not write him a long letter telling him how much you want him and love him, because believe me girl, Ive been there and did that, and it backfired big time.  Do and say exactly what you said, that he is special to you and you have strong feelings for him but it's up to him to do what he wants.  Let him be the man and come to you.  

Answer 6

equality ......

you do it  

Answer 7

you do not make any sense at all

but i can understand some of that

hold it. youre a big girl. you can wait to tell him how you feel

and stop being so selfish

Answer 8

straight out tell him. i know it's hard, but you can't keep it in. there are so many people who are so afraid of rejection and risking friendships but you might end up waiting too long. maybe he'll feel the same way, but if he doesn't, let him know you want to stay friends and if he's a good friend, he won't make it awkward.

Answer 9

You can't just tell him you're in love with him but don't want him to act on it. If you are afraid of spoiling your friendship, maybe you shouldn't tell him until you are absolutely sure you want to start a relationship. Meanwhile, it doesn't hurt to flirt.  

Answer 10

If you have a close friendship, then you must hang out a lot. Next time he calls to say Hi or to hang out act real excited and tell him you have a date with a real hot guy. Tell him to wish you luck. after the great date, tell him this great guy (even make up a name if you have to) asked you to go on his Harley Davidson for a weekend ride to the beach, or the mountains etc. Make sure to say he's so cool! Keep going for a couple weeks. Or get an old friend he doesn't know to show up looking for you when you are out with this guy somewhere. See his reaction, make him jealous its the only way to get him to make a move! Trust me!

I ain't telling you to lie like a rug but if you wanna find out if he's got feelings for you, this will work. If he does have feelings for you, he'll make a move fast! TRUST ME! Works EVERY time!

Good Luck ;D

P.S.

you can tell him the truth after your married! ;P

Answer 11

Sound like you are going to have to make the first move. Have him come over or go for a walk, somewhere quiet, that won't get interrupted.

Tell him exactly how you feel, make eye contact, and kiss him. If he feels the same way, great! If not just keep trying.

quitters never win, and winners never quit!

Answer 12

Why don't you want to initiate?

Is that your Idea of a good man? He'll get everything started for you?

If so, he's apparently not the guy you want.

Answer 13

Tell him that you don't want to risk anything by moving to fast with him. Let him know how you feel and that you are not wanting a relationship right now,but maybe in the future, you guys could try it out. Only if he wants to be with you. The only way you will ever know if he likes you is either wait and see, or be honest. If you wait it may be awhile and then he could assume you like someone else and move on. If you tell him he will either say he does or doesn't like you that way. Then if he does then you two can begin a slow relationship.If he doesn't them you can move on!