What do I do? He scares me!!

Question

im 13 and i fight with my dad like crazy i know that all teenagers fight with their parents but he yells and screams and threatens violence on me and my 2 sisters and little brother it got so bad today that i started to cry which only made it worse and my mom just sits there like hes not doing anything wrong!! he is being treated for depression and so is my older sister but i think that he is a horrible father and i hate ever being around him!! is it me or him?

Answer 1

both parties are in fault

Answer 2

Find a trustworthy person outside your immediate family circle to talk to. They could be a favorite teacher or guidance counselor, minister, doctor, even a relative (like an aunt or grandmother).

Since your father is being treated for depression and threatens violence, you need to let another adult know about this. Your mother may be afraid of him. Or she may having her own depression.

In the meantime, try as best as you can to stay out of his way. In other words, don't antagonize him.

I know it's especially hard when you're 13, really hitting puberty and trying to establish your own identity. But here it sounds as if you need an adult ally who can stand up for you if need be and keep an eye on what could be an explosive situation.

Good luck!  

Answer 3

Well that is questionable.. teenagers seem to not understand adults. He may not be handling the situation very well, but you are probably adding fuel to the fire. When your dad starts to yell then you should just go to your room and not fight back. Yelling back only makes things worse.  

Answer 4

Honey,

Have you ever heard of Bipolar Disorder? Sounds like your dad from what you have described him.  He needs medication and it will make all the difference.  Your mother could be an battered wife, you don't know.

If it gets worse call authorities......be careful sweetie.

Answer 5

it's him.. and you need to talk to your mom and tell her that he is threatning your family and you feel really sad.

--good luck

Answer 6

try fighting less with your father.

maybe listen to why hes yelling at you

maybe your doing something wrong

and you should be helping your dad through this depression phase

you know he could have a heart attack and die.. you wil lregret it

try not to fight, you will see the good side of your father

trust me

Answer 7

It him. try talking to your mom about it.

Good luck and God bless!

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Answer 8

Do what he tells you to dowithout arguing or giving him c**p and he probably won't get mad at you.Next he has a depressed wife and is trying to pay the bills and keep a roof over your head and his and your moms and brothers and sisters.He has a lot on him hon.

I am sure he loves you though, and would beat down anyone who tried to hurt you.I am not saying he is perfect but it sounds like he is stressed out.Get in church make some friends and maybe you can get your dad to go sometime, that would help him become a better person if he turns his life to the LORD.The United Pentecostal church is good.

Answer 9

it's him if he makes you feel threatened or unsafe in Anyway then he is not a good father , fathers are supposed to be there to protect there children!! you need to get some sort of help in this situation it's not right and one of these days he can snap and just severely hurt you or one of your sisters or brother!!