What do I do? Help please?

Question

My brother who is 54 had an accident 9 weeks ago and has been living with us. During this time, he was made homeless. He broke both heels and since looking after him, he does not seem to be trying to find somewhere to live. Our last child left home 18mnths ago, and my husband and I were looking forward to some of 'our time'. I don't think I am being selfish and I think my brother should be looking for somewhere else to live. He seems to be quite settled (which is probably my fault). Any ideas how to approach him?

Answer 1

Write a letter or a note to him, thats the best way to approch I thinks.

A reall peace ful note covering all topics

Answer 2

Sometimes there are no easy ways to approach something like this.

You have the right to your own home.

Speak to your brother ask him when does he intend finding somewhere of his own to live, tell him you are happy to help him find somewhere.

Explain to him that you helped him on a 'temporary basis' and never intended it to last so long.

He may sulk a bit at first but you have done more than your share for him.

Just be straight with him sometimes it is the only way, good luck !!!!!!!

Answer 3

You need to confront him and explain your situation, or he may well be there for good!

Answer 4

Just be straight up with him.

Answer 5

is he still in pain? can he fend for himself? if so than you need to get him to a counselor. he needs help. he got too comfortable and probably has anxiety about being on his own again. its a very common thing. talk to him though. tell him you and him are going to go look for a place for him together. see how he reacts. then you'll be able to tell if its laziness or anxiety.

Answer 6

i think u shud sit down with him and kindly tell him that he needs to make an effort to move out.. he needs to understand that you guys need some time for yourselves!!!

Answer 7

get him the lettings sections in the local paper and offer to go round with him to help him find something. doesnt he work??