What do I do? I need help on hooking this guy!?

Question

Hi there,

I'm 18 in Melbourne, g*y, attractive, funny, flirty.. I've been g*y for as long as I could comprehend homosexuality, but I've never been in love - until now! I am in love with a 17 year old guy who I met through a friend about 3 months ago. We've seen each other literally every day for the past month, and four days ago I told him I'm in love with him. I told him by text message because I know he hates confrontation and awkward situations. It was a really nice message and just said that I'm in love with him and that I'd understand if he didn't feel the same way. So we spoke about it and he told me he doesn't feel the same way, that he loves the friendship we have and that he doesn't want a boyfriend. :'( As I said, I've never been in love before and it's really confusing me! I've had depression for 4 years now, and this is just doing my head in. I just think everything would be so much easier if I died, which is looking like quite an attractive solution right now.

Does anyone know how I can get this guy to like me, or how to get over him?

Please help! I've spoken to all my g*y friends but they're all whores and don't understand the concept of a "monogamous" relationship. I've spoken to all my straight friends who don't understand it's not the same for guys. This is probably the most confused I've ever been in my life!

xx

Answer 1

You told him how you feel and he said he's not interested in you romantically, so forget about him as anything more than what he is willing to give you, and from what you have described, that sounds like a great friendship. By pursuing a relationship that he is not interested in, you may lose his friendship. Your heart is broke now but there are lots of g*y clubs  and men in Melbourne. Go out and have a good time and you will be surprised how quickly you find another "love."  

Answer 2

your avatar name suggests the opposite of your message so...

you describe yourself as "attractive, funny, flirty.. " so i also have a hard time believing you are depressed because you have a positive self image.

if you obsess over it the situation will probably get worse so try not to worry about it and tell him if he changes his mind to let you know.

Answer 3

Well dont hurt yourself you'll never get anywhere that way besides youve got a lot of fun rides ahead of you. I wish there were a magic wand to wave to make people love you, dont worry your not the only one to go through this, thats why love sucks. Remember beauty really is in the eye of the beholder so you might find someone else. Good luck

Answer 4

Don't kill yourself, that's just going to make everyone that cares about you very upset and most probably blame themselves for you killing yourself. I've been there and i know the temptation but whenever i get that depressed i usually think about how much it would hurt people i love and i couldn't do that to them because i like making them happy not sad.

Anyway not much you can do to get over him, you'll most probably get loads of answers saying stop seeing him but you can't do that with a friend cause it would hurt you as much as him. I think you'll just have to wait it out until you find someone else who is actually g*y and wants a relationship to come along. Sorry i can't be much more help than that but you can't choose who you love...I know the feeling of what you're going through well i feel the same about my straight :( best friend.