What do I do? My Lesiban Teacher.?

Question

I never, ever, ever, ever, thought that I was a lesiban. But then, I get this lesiban teacher and I really like her. Not like her as in want to be her girlfriend, but like her as seeing her as someone I would really want to know. But that made kind of go crazy inside, because I wanted her attention. I WANTED her to notice me, I had a feeling for her, but I don't know what to call that feeling. So, does that mean I am questioning my sexuatlity? Because I can't stop thinking about it. I love the way she thinks, I love how we can relate...BLAH. I also like boys though, I honsetly do, but I don't know if it's really sexually.

I. Am. So. Confused.

Someone please help me.

Answer 1

You dont like like her

Answer 2

Being in awe of someone and respecting that person has nothing to do with sexuality.  

For instance, I LOVE LOVE LOVE my father-in-law.  He is one of the most awesome men I know.  I love to talk to him, get his opinions on matters, and just hang out with him.  But I am 100% positive that I am NOT attracted to him at all.  I respect him because he is kind and honest.  I know that he is not judgemental (which means a lot cause he is also my pastor), and I can trust him when I need to talk.  

No worries, you are not a L*****n just because you respect your teacher and want to do well.  We all like to be praised, it is a good emotional boost that everyone needs every once in a while.

Answer 3

I think it seems like you want some advice and guidance from an adult you can relate to, yes? You could consider talking to her, if it wouldn't be too awkward for either of you. That might definitely help.

You might be bisexual, where you like guys and girls. The only way you can really figure that out is if you experiment. Try dating both, and see which one you enjoy being with more, or if you simply don't like being with one of the genders. Just try it out and give it time. You'll discover yourself in time.

EDIT:

Someone pointed something out about your teacher. You're not actually attracted to her, right? I don't think you said that, but, if so, don't make any moves towards that. I'm sure she's too old, and it's simply not right. If you find out that you are L*****n, find someone a bit more appropriate and closer to your age.

Answer 4

Are you between 12-15?  Because that's a normal age to get a girl crush.  Most straight women have found some other women attractive.  Also, there's degrees of sexuality - very few people are actually completely g*y or completely straight.  You just might be closer to the middle on that scale.  But hey, either way, don't make a move on your teacher - you could get her fired - instead wait until you find another girl you have a crush on to experiment with.  You could also just like your teacher for her personality traits.  But whatever it is, don't be closed-minded and remember to respect people of all sexual orientations.

Answer 5

She's a teacher, it's inappropriate for you to outwardly show any attraction for her.  

I've been attracted to teachers before, no biggie, just have enough self control not to cross any lines.

Answer 6

just because you have respect for ( or like) another's sense of humor, intellectual process or what ever, doesn't mean you have the same sexual preference that they do. it is natural to want the attention of some one who you respect or like. however, in this case, you need to be careful. it would probably be OK to tell her after class that you are impressed with her view point (or whatever), just don't get carried away with trying to explain. leave it simple. people appreciate being appreciated.

Answer 7

I. Am. So. Confused. Also.

But I would just ask to hang out with her, it may seem awkward. You have nothing to lose. It could be a good learning experience for you, and you may make a friend.

She won't be your teacher forever. If you want to be her friend, you have to take a chance.

Answer 8

i get that completely. except dont do what i did. i had a huge crush on one of my ex coachs'. my situation was similar because we would hangout all the time. and i would also babysit for her on occasion. i told her everything and she was my go to person. she was the first person i told i was g*y and it went downhill form there.

well i was 14 and she was like 22 and one thing led to another and i regre every single moment of it. no one got in trouble, but it really sucked emotionally for the both of us. so just heed my warning and dont worry about it. dont think about it. as for you orientation, at most u might be bi or bicurious.

Answer 9

Ohh girl, whatever you do..do NOT pursue a relationship w/ her..that's a big NO-NO. Don't you knw tht teachers go to jail for that stuff? Huge rep downer...just forget about it basically. The whole crush/love thing will past, right now just enjoy life..date one of your own age.

Ahh, and about orientation you could be Bi-curious...google it for more info.

Maybe you just have a deep admiration for this teacher, someone that you look up to...this is normal to have, but don't go far with it..outcomes aren't pretty.

Answer 10

You sure are confuse.

Answer 11

Okay this feeling could be a couple of things.

1) I dont know how old you are, but your hormons could have something to do with it.

2)Your bisexual.

I always knew I was a L*****n, or else I'd say it was my hormons, cuz I'm only 17. But, you could have this feeling because of that connection you described you have.

That's happened with millions of people! It could just be this ONE person, or maybe in the future it could happen with another person.

In my opinion, I think girls are way easier to connect with, and talk to as opposed to guys. So you might just now be experiancing that.

Unfortunately, I really dont know what else to tell you, besides that only time can tell.

If anything else happens, your more than welcome to e-mail me and talk!

I'd be glad to help you and talk to you as best as I can!

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Answer 12

Perhaps she is just a person you really admire.  Her sexual orientation doesn't have to be a part of what you like about her.  If you don't find yourself sexually attracted to females than you are not a L*****n.  If you do find that you are attracted to females, then you are.  It's as simple as that.  It sounds like what you feel for this woman is a deep admiration and really, it's not that uncommon for young people to feel this way about older, wiser people.  Just try not to over analyze it so much.  Best of luck.

Answer 13

you know i am going through the same thing as you, except i been having um...dreams about my teacher, i say just talk to her on a friendly basis and let things take off from there and see what happens, dont rush it too fast if u want to make a move, do it when the time is right

Answer 14

First off, it's L*****n, not lesiban.

Ok, now that that's out of the way...

I was in a scenario with two teachers in high school that are as follows:

The first was my english teacher.  I would explain how I felt about her as you do for your teacher.  I considered what it would be like to kiss her, and it seemed not right.  Otherwise I thought she was awesome, and would hang out with her after class (my other good friend did so too), and I still keep in touch with her today.

Then I had another: my L*****n PE teacher (go figure), who I definitely had a crush on.  One day she asked me to do some task for her, and from then on, I was hooked.  I couldn't stop myself from imagining her bringing me into her office and passionately kissing me...  Ahem.  You get the point.  I mean, sure, I thought she was cool, and sought her attention, but I also wanted her to touch me and stuff, you know.  Just the normal signs of physical attraction.

So, if that helps... That was my experience with teacher admiration/crush.  Moral is: if you aren't physically attracted, you probably just admire her.  My being a L*****n also doesn't mean you are, I'm just trying to point out the distinctions between physical and mental attraction.

Answer 15

there is a difference between sexual attraction and sincere respect.  it is natural to question yourself, thinking critically about life is what education prompts us to do.  i don't think this woman is dangerous, she is a mature mind who can offer a lot of life lessons.  don't feel guilty about this.