What do I do? Self harm?

Question

My friend has started self harming himself again...he hasn't told anyone except me and 2 others...do i tell someone like his older brother'? he told me not to and i don't want to betray his trust

Answer 1

You have to find some way to help him and if that's the only way, then do it. Where does he hurt himself? Is there a way to make sure an adult sees it? (If it's on his arms, his teacher or parent can say someone said he was seen shooting up. then demand to see his arm.) I know it sounds lame, but your friend isn't exactly in his right mind right now anyway. And the most important thing is that you get him some help, even if he gets mad at you.

Answer 2

tell his parents, they will know what to do better then anyone.

Answer 3

he needs to get some help...and the only way is you getting his brother involved in this....is like ....would you do nothing ??...knowing that a dear friend is killing/harming himself ?....I would do my best to try to help him.

Answer 4

You should tell his older brother but make sure you tell him not to be so blunt about it.  

Answer 5

Find out why he is doing this. Maybe he needs someone to talk to about his problems. Suggest talking to a friend he trusts, counselor or pastor. I am concerned he has some problems he needs to talk about.

Answer 6

wow that stinks im srry.....u should either try sitting down and talking to him about it because maybe theres a reason as to why hes doing it and if u sit down with him and find out then you can better help him or maybe tell someone you trust and see what they think about it and what you should do. i dont know if you wanna tell his older brother, i think you should if you feel kinda helpless about it because you dont want him to keep hurting himself  but yea i can see what you mean by betraying his trust. he clearly trust you if he only told u and like 2other people so you wouldnt wanna ruin it but thats what id do.

Answer 7

If didn't want help, why would he tell you?

If you could get him to go to a school counselor himself (with you and/or other friends supporting him, too) that would probably be best. But if that isn't possible go to a counselor or teacher yourself. They know how to handle the situation best.

Also going to a professional that won't judge him would probably be better than a family member or another friend because he may feel more judged by them-probably a reason he hasn't talked to them yet.

Answer 8

try talking to him bout what is bothering him if there is anyway u can help try to make him see that it is not worth it..if u cant get him to stop u definitely need to get help...i know he told u not to tell anyone but tell an adult because he may be upset at first but in the long run he will thank you n it is not betraying trust because it is the right thing to do because he is self harming himself...it is a very dangerouse situation and u dont want anything to happen to him cause he is a good friend i propose...u r looking out for him by telling an adult because it sounds like he may need help

Answer 9

Well yes I think you should tell someone. He'll thank you someday.Trust me. ( :  

Answer 10

No, you need to tell an authority figure right away.  There are some times when it is important to "rat out" a friend.  You should tell his parents, a teacher, a counselor, etc.

Answer 11

try talking to him and explaining to him that what he's doing is bad and  damaging him.

if that doesnt work, than you might have to tell his brother if you know he'd help or someone  that can actually help his problem.

try and make it anonymous but if your friend matters to you that much you'd speak up if he's really harming himself because many people develop habits and problems from self harm.

Answer 12

Go to like a school counselor anonymously. They'll help.

Answer 13

Girl problems..how many heroes die under the feet of beauty?

nevertheless, u got to watch out for him! since he ask u not to tell anyone!maybe this is the way he vent his unhappiness/release his anger~ anyway, stand by for first aid box and cell phone whenever he do this~

Answer 14

Harming himself will one day become killing himself. When that day comes, will you find comfort in knowing you can be trusted with a secret? He confided in you and two others-hmmmm...sounds like a cry for help to me. What's more important: being trusted with his secret or being trusted with his life? Snap out of it AND TELL SOMEONE who can help!!! The brother, the PARENTS, a counselor....be a friend for real, damnit.

Answer 15

That's tough. I think what you should do is talk to your friend about it. Ask him why he's started again and ask if there's anything you can do to help him. Remind him that you're there for him when he needs to talk and that you care about him. Also, remember that self-injury is not a suicide attempt, that in most cases it's a coping method, but if at any point you think he might try killing himself, tell someone right away.

Answer 16

Well I guess that you should just let him do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No seriously you should tell someone that can help him if you are a true friend then you should do the right thing for him He needs it maybe he don't realize it yet but he will thank you in the future And I know you want him to make it there  

Answer 17

honesty and trust are important don't loose his trust if you can help it.... its a good thing he started off talking to you that means he at least has you to talk with. Try talking more about it.

Get him to try another approach, any approach other than self harm.

get him to use a diary or write out hs feelings or a poem. get him to draw. Get him to get out of the house, go for a bike ride just almost anything to take things off his mind. i know most of my suggestion don't sound helpful but he has a lot of trust on you and if you persuade him enough he would try something more healthier.