What do I do? Someone please help!

Question

Alright, well, my dad walked out on us since basically before I was born. I've only seen him twice. The last time was 10 years ago. My mom doesn't know where he is at and doesn't even want him to come at all. I do want to meet him again....because he owes me money and I want to tell him the jackass he is. Reason is that he cheated on my mom. And he left us out in the cold. Word is that he wasn't exactly poor...not really rich but not poor either. My mom even wants me to change my name on facebook and stuff like that so that he won't find me. For some reason I really don't care if he's here or not. I just want him to give me money. He owes us that and I want to help my mom. She's taken care of me all these years by herself and she was my mom and my dad. I love her and want to take care of her and right now, it seems that I have to do that because things are a little tight. So how do I find this sucker? I tried searching, but Idk where he could be. He was always running. He could be on the other side of the world! Someone please help me. I don't know where to start. Thanks.

Answer 1

I hate to tell you the only way your gonna get any money from him is for your mother to file for child support and keep fighting for it eventually they will go after him for back support and current support and if he doesn't pay they will suspend his licenses and put him in jail for non-support  

Answer 2

The first place to look is with your mom.  You need to get specific information, if possible, so you can track a social security number or something.  There are child support enforcement organizations out there to help you out in situations just like this.  Once they have the social security number and/or name, birth date...etc, they will go after him.  If he has a job, he will get nailed for support, and for back support.  Wherever he works for the rest of his life, he will have to pay until he has fully met the support terms.

A way that's a little more "out there" is to write to some of the talk show hosts on the air, and find out if they can help.  They love trying to track down dead beat dads.

One thing that you also need to do is forgive.  As hard as that is to swallow right now, if you do not at least forgive him for what he has done and find a way to get beyond this, then you will allow him to ruin your thoughts, goals and dreams for your future forever.  If he is not in your life, and never has been, then simply do what you can to get what is rightfully yours, but do not do it out of anger and despite, do it because it's right.  Move on with your life, and allow other professionals to help you and your mom with the financial aspects.

Good luck.  My heart goes out to you and I hope you are able to utilize some of this wisdom to get what is rightfully owed to you. :-)