What do I do about abuse???

Question

My bestfriend came to my house last night to sleepover and when she was changing I noticed all these bruise and mars all over her legs and arms and when I asked her about it she told me not to tell anyone so I promised.. she said her dad beats her and sometime rapes her but she said she loves him and she can't loose him...I knew he was preverted because sometimes when I slept over her house he would touch me in uncomfortable places but he never raped me...I'm scared for her and her little brother but I don't want to tell and her be mad at me!! should I tell about her dad...or should I talk to him because I'm sleeping over her house tonight

Answer 1

DO NOT STAY AT THAT HOUSE TONIGHT. She is in danger and It would be stupid on your part to voluntarily put yourself in danger as well. This girl has some real serious issues and no matter what she says she can afford to lose the father. Why? Because when fathers love their children the way they are supposed to they do not do these sorts of things. You need to tell your mother so she knows, and I'm sure your mother will not allow you to be around him either (because she loves you, not just to be a B*tch). Then I would report it to the police and report it with the Department of Children and Family Services. If you don't something really bad is going to happen. Can you carry the guilt around if you remain speechless? I see this sort of thing all the time here at work. There is lots more to this, I'm sure of it.  

Answer 2

you need to tell the proper authorities.  even though you promised your friend you wouldnt.  your not helping her by not doing anything.  

Answer 3

First, are you and your friend under 18?  If so, you need to report this abuse to a trusted adult (mom, dad, etc...)  Tell them about your friend and what she said.  This adult should call the local CPS Child Protective Services in your area.  

It is so important to save your friend and her brother!!!!!!!  I am so serious!!!!  What if it were you being beaten and raped?  You would be scared to tell people, but you would want someone to help you.  It can damage your friend for life if this abuse does not stop....if you are a TRUE friend, you will report this.  You will be hurting your friend by not reporting the abuse.  Please help your friend.  In the end, it does not really matter if she is "mad" at you.  By reporting this, you are ultimately saving her.  Please do the right thing here.  Confide in a trusted adult and have them call CPS or another Abuse Reporting Hotline. Rape is a serious crime.  Her father needs help...this is horrible.  If you have no one to turn to, you can also call the police. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Please go to a teacher or an adult with your situation. When I was younger I dated a guy and his sisters friends(there was no mom in the house) came to me and told me that the dad had been touching them-around 5 girls. They were very scared to tell their friend or their moms and dads because they thought that people would be angry too. I have to admit I was really nervous that everyone would be mad with me if I went and told. I had to tell though. I couldn't let someone else get abused because I kept it quiet. I finally went to my mom and we talked to the girls together, then they called the cops. The dad ended up in jail for a little while and then they put him into counseling.A couple of years later my ex-boyfriends sister wrote me a letter telling me how us girls had saved her. Her dad had(when we reported him) begun abusing her. She was to scared to tell. She said she had thought of suicide. .I am glad we told, you will be too. Your friend might feel betrayed @ first but you are her best friend-best friends protect each other no matter what. God Bless, I hope all turns out ok.

Answer 5

First tell your mom, she will handle it. and dont sleep over there. Your friend maybe hurt after all this but the scares and the abuse will be far worst. Friends don't let friends get hurt by anyone.....