What do I do about my 18 year old son?

Question

I had to get the police to remove him from the house as he was so aggressive. The police were reluctant to bother - but I explained that I have just come out of hospital, my son is being aggressive to my 9 year old daughter & won't lift a finger to help out in the home. Infact some church people brought a couple of dinners around as I can't drive or walk about due to the op. But my son ate all the food & didn't even offer to give any to me or my girl.

The police removed him, but he had taken the window lock off of his room and he is in his room now. He has locked the door so he cannot be removed.

He is not all awful, he doesn't smoke & doesn't get drunk as much as he used to. But he hates his sister & swears & is quite nasty to us.

Answer 1

Did you get a restraining order outon him? If not, call the cops and get one put on him so he cannot come back.

Answer 2

sorry to here this.

why is your son so angry??? sounds like there is resentment 2wards his sister for some reason.

he really needs to sort out these anger issues, but i understand that he's 18 and wont want to talk about anything.

has he got a job?? if not he need one! it may even be worth him getting a place of his own, he will need to work to support him self and he will be away from your daughter.

sometimes the hard way is the only way.

i hope everything works out xx

Answer 3

:( give him a break. + talk to him. Assess yourself thoroughly. then you can blame him.  

Answer 4

call the police again. tell them you have an intruder in your house.

Answer 5

im sorry but you hav to phone the police on him , just because he doesn't smoke or drink anymore doesn't mean he's not a bad lad , if he treats you & your little 1 this way he is no less than a bully . he should learn to be more respectful of you both and he's not going to do that if you leave him be . you have to be cruel to  be kind in your situation .

Answer 6

Childish attention seeking behaviour.

I would be more concerned about his behaviour towards his sister. He's and adult but she is a vulnerable child and you have to protect her as well as yourself. He can look after himself.

The Police or your Minister/Priest would surely have to react when a 9 year old child as well as yourself are at risk. Don't feel guilty for involving other people into this crisis because he's your son. Lets face it, he is not exactly behaving like a son at the moment, is he? Please get help from someone. Best of luck :-)