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What do I do about my W bf?

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well Im currently dating my bf who is white Ive known him since we were kids and it only seems natrual that were dating BUT he is white and he seems to not even realise that Im black like i know thats a good thing but its not because when i need to "perm my hair" or go to the hairdresser every month he doesnt understand that and says "well why cant you straighten your hair" and all that i told him in SOO many ways that black girls hair is different then white girls hair and hes like "i know that but other black girls do this and that" and he has NOOO idea hes just assuming that they straighten their hair.. we perm are hair AND straighten it.. but he just is being stuborn and keeps on theatining to not pay to get my hair permed!! another thing, I wear a scarf when i go to sleep and he complains about that and says its not attractive and that he likes when my hair is out blah blah and i tell him that i dont want to get my hair messy and hes like well i have to look at you?!?! i mean can he be more rude!!?? i tell him about this and that it annoys me and if he doesnt like it then leave but then he brings on "well ive known you for years and i love you blah blah" and I know he does cause he is the BEST bf in the world BUT its these little things that turn in to BIG issues cause he constantly brings them up!! another thing, we were sitting down watching BET one day, and we were watching "things that have corrupted black americans" (i think thats the name of the show not sure) and he makes a stupid comment like "what if us white had a show like that" and then he starts to laugh and make fun of the show and everything.. i tell him to stop and I go upstairs to watch it and he follows me then turns of the t.v and starts trying to makeout with me and i tell him to stop and he doesnt at all.. he only stops when I literally push him off and walk out of the room.. and then that leads to another argument and then he starts saying how im not going anywhere without him and that if im going to the hairdresser hes gonna watch me while i get my hair done (to make sure im really going there) and HE knows that the lady at the hairdresser place HATES him, you want to know why?? well when i was getting my hair permed one time he came in and told the lady that she was runing my hair (like he is some proffesional or something) then he goes in saying that he pays money so my hair looks nice and all that.. BUT IM the one that payed that time and my hair looked great afterwords!! i told him i liked it and the WHOLE car ride home he started talking about the black women in there and how there hair is "nappy" and they made my hair look bad and it was fine before.. and I SCREMED at him and got so mad I made him stop the car and I told him off.. he appologized and again i told him if he wants to date a white girl the go ahead and he said the same thing he said before.. Im need your advice because im loosing my mind and its been VERY stressfull living with him.. Ive never met a guy who thinks they no so much about something they know little about.. i mean he seems to think just cause he is with me he knows everything about black people now and he doesnt!

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  1. well since you've known each other for so long you guys are probably at the point where you're getting sick of each other. maybe try discussing how upset you get about this and if he continues to do it, tell them that it's going to have to change in order for us to be together.

    and i have news for him.

    white girls get just as much stuff done to their hair as you do.


  2. He's paying to perm your hair? He has a right not to pay! It's his hard earned. Pay for your own hair stuff.

    He wants to look at you without your hair being brushed or permed in natural beauty? That's a compliment!

    He wants to be with you and you push him away?

    You're tired of him? He should be tired of you!

  3. he's just being very annoying.........tell him to cut it out...and tell him how much it bugs you.....if he doesn't stop, you'll have to make some deep decisions.......like leaving his annoying azz!!!!

  4. Enh take your perm out anyway.

    And stop arguing with him. Seriously just don't feed into it.

    You guys take it down a notch and just talk maturely.

    If he tries to yell don't even yell back.

    Let him know you don't appreciate his arrogance and tell him how much it bothers you.

    No Yelling.

  5. pay for your own hair and then he has no say. Maybe hes trying to tell you that he likes your hair the way it is naturally. Or if you have the balls, dont do your hair for a while and see what he says about how that looks. Maybe then h**l change his mind.  

  6. Too bad that is happening, i see he is ignorant in some things, but since he has that mind frame then leave him alone...what is the real reason he is dating you?? some interracial relationships just aren't meant to be and this is probably one of them. the thing is, he will never understand. For some reason being black to others is like being a mutant and to have someone question that and make fun of certain things is not cool!! BTW pay for your own hair,and wear it how you like.

  7. wow, you complain a lot

  8. Tell you what. It's good to have a man who loves you. Some of us aren't that lucky ;)

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