What do I do about my boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend and I recently became engaged. I thought we were in love until today.

I went to work to visit him (we work at the same store) and I was standing behind him while he was talking to this girl cashier and he didn't notice me. The girl basically was asking him to go to her grad. party because she likes him and he said that he likes her too but he is in a relationship right now and if he wasn't in that relationship he would definately go to her party. That's when I grabbed his arm and told him to get outside. He said he was just trying to make her leave him alone. Not many people at work know we are together so that explains why the girl didn't know he wasn't single.

What do I do?

Answer 1

You're entirely too young to be engaged. At 17 you have no clue what you want for you future, you just know what you want right now. This guy is just using you (even if it's not for s*x) you need to do yourself a favor and dump him.

Answer 2

Sweetie, did you miss the part where he said that he had a girlfriend??? He was trying to get her to leave him alone, that's why he SAID 'I have a girlfriend' what you need to do is Trust him if you are 'in love' with him and relax. Sounds like you are a bit insecure.

Answer 3

Why don't people know ur together? If you are engaged people should know unless he is embarrased. Guys lie! Unless you completely trust him DONT GET MARRIED. have a long engagement if anything just to make sure. It's one thing if hes just talking to her, cause it could be harmless. But make sure you find out. Dig a little..

Answer 4

U are still in love he turned down that       for you and he didnt go to the party. Did you ask him wat kind of 'like' he was talking about when he said he liked her too? I tink you can trust this man to not be foolish and ruin your relatonship

Answer 5

well just apologize for over reacting but tell him not to blame you for acting the way you did because guys cheat a lot just because of eyeing beauty.

just talk it over. be sure and watch the tone of your voice when you do. its easy to miscommunicate and star an argument or fight.

Answer 6

You should chill out is what you should do.  He was honest with this girl.  You should be happy.  Don't go looking for problems, babe.  You'll just drive him away.  Trust is a VERY important part of a relationship, especially a marriage (I hope you plan on a LONG engagement!).  You are obviously too immature and insecure for a relationship with a guy this age.

Answer 7

I understand you'd be peeved but at least he turned her down.

He probably wanted to be nice to her....he probably just should have said he has a girlfriend but thanks.

If you don't trust him then you should probably delay marriage for a while.

Answer 8

thats a bad situation, but you heard what he said, and even when he was caught he said he was trying to get her to leave  him alone. Thats obviously a lie seeing as he said he would go if he didnt have a girlfriend. So that means he was flirting with another woman, in that early in a relationship you should be more in love thanever, imagine 5 years from now.  He might accually hook up with someone else..

Answer 9

Your both too immature to be jumping into something like marriage.  Your underage and need to have the chance to live a life of your own before getting in over your head.  Being married isn't always fun and games.  You have to pay bills, keep a roof over your heads, keep your marriage going, and eventually take care of children.  And all of that requires something that pays better than working in retail, especially in this economy.  You haven't even finished high school yet, have you?

Answer 10

Girl, dont let get away with it like that! You saw what happened and you know by your gut feeling he wasnt trying to make her leave him alone. He could have left off the last part about being simple. No is different then kinda. Although, I know you are going to forgive him and move on after waiting this long for him, don't ignore the RED FLAGS! You will only be slapping yourself later!

Answer 11

well i don't think that you should rush to judgement and say that he doesn't love you.  Though it's wrong to be hitting on other girls while you are in a relationsip...guys will be guys and some guys just like flirting.

The question you should ask your self is do you love him? do you trust him? do you believe when he says he loves you?

if the answers to those questions are no then you guys are totally not ready for marriage.

plus you're 17...you have lots of time ahead of you and you should get your life started before you make such a huge step and get married.

Answer 12

YOU DIDNT EVEN GRADUATE HIGH SCHOOL AND YOUR ENGAGED !!! woah you are too young. you needa enjoy life and do things indepentally for a little while. you needa live life and not be stuck to one person. and especially how he kinda cheeted on you , you should just be like listen i really like you but maybe i got into this relationship to fast and you arent 100 percent devoted to me so maybe we can still date but get un-engaged

HOPE I HELPED GOOD LUCK :)

Answer 13

Man thats a hard situation, you should start staying closer and watching him just incase.

I dont really have much advice but i think you should start talking to your family/friends about it.

Answer 14

sorry but you are too young for him and obvo he doesnt really love you like he lets on sorry only fing you can do is split x*x

Answer 15

I don't think you understood what he did...HE TOLD HER NO.  He also complimented her like a decent person rather than left her wondering what was so wrong with herself that he did not like her. The only other thing he could of said is "sure, I'll be there."  If something this simple bothers you so much, you are way too young to be enganged.  Throw kids and a motrgage on top and you might have a melt-down!

Answer 16

Tell him he shouldn't of been saying that[It's like "HELLO WE'RE ENGAGED!!!"], and ask him to stop talking to her like that. And say that if he likes her why doesn't he go be in a relationship with her.And why don't people at work know you two are together? i mean your not having s*x right? so what would they have to say?

Answer 17

If things are great when you are together alone but not so great when people are around then you need to get out and move on. He is embarrassed for people to know that he is seeing someone so young. He doesn't want people talking  about him. Find someone who loves you in secret as well as out in public. You are young and "the ONE" is out there. Be patient.

Good Luck

Answer 18

He sounds kinda cocky if he calls you "kid" infront of people. Thats not very respectful.

Maybe you should talk to him about how serious he is about your relationship together.

Communication is a big part of a relationship.  And its not worth getting married if he doesnt want to communicate or respect you.

Answer 19

first off get unengaged your 17, then when your 18 get back at him by fooling around with me.... that'll erk him.

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Answer 20

First of all he's a loser for dating you. Your cool because your going up. He's a loser because he could be out of college already. Which is sick. Date someone your own age or atl east close to your age. Your to young to be dating someone this serious. Have fun before its to late.

Answer 21

if he acts different around you when you guys are around other people he isn't being fair to you

a true guy would always treat you the same even in front of his friends etc.

talk it out before anything else.

Answer 22

my wife who is in the kitchen cooking me banana crepes told me to tell you that if he acts different and strange in public towards you then he is not serious.

Answer 23

Well give him credit, at least he said he was not available. Seventeen is pretty young to be engaged, but if this is the path you've chosen, practice patience, kindness, respect.  You should be proud, he was diplomatic, but truthful.  Good qualities in a man.  Oh, and tell him its not ok to disrespect you by calling you Kid.

Answer 24

Oohh thats nasty, but maybe he is telling the truth. The fact that he actually said he was in a relationship and couldn't go must mean something, but don't let him get away with it, make him earn your respect again!

Hope your ok and things work out good for you x

Answer 25

If you can't trust him to talk to another girl or go to a girl friend's party by himself, then you're not ready for marriage or even a steady relationship.

My husband was a runway model.  I have no problems with him going out with his friends just like he has no problems with me going out with mine.  I can leave him in the middle of a bunch of half-dressed hooter girls and I can guarantee you 100% he will come home to me.  If you can't say the same for your boy, then go find another one.

Answer 26

I would give him the benifit of the doubt! If your engaged to him you should know if he was trying to be nice or not.

And look at it this way if he was trying to pick up he would have been more interested in her and probably went on that date.

Just relax and trust him, but let him know where you stand on your views!! Good luck

Answer 27

I think its time u ended things with him. You know i find it more and more people flirt at work. Flirting is harmless but sometimes it can lead to other things. I know my husband flirts at work as well. But if he didn't even notice you well then thats not good. At least he wasn;t saying he is single though. talk to him though

Answer 28

if it was me, i wouldnt just keep my guard down..

you guys should talk to each other about things like that.

and if it happens again..then tell him that you dont appreciate it and things like that..

if it happens too often..maybe he isnt the guy for you.

Answer 29

ok.Try to be not jealous at this moment.

break up him for a while and see what is he going to do.

If he still loves u, he will try to talk with u again.

just test his emotion.

Answer 30

end the engagement. Plain and simple, you are too young, and although you may seem to be "in love" you could be in lust. He obviously isn't worth it since no one knows hes engaged to you and no one knows you're even dating, thats not right. find someone who deserves you.

Answer 31

Yep, I'd end it. Sounds like he's using you. And if he's calling his fiance "kid" then that's an automatic red flag. Neither one of you are ready for marriage.