What do I do about my brother's behavior?

Question

My little brother is 5 years younger than me (making him 13). We have been always been really close though. Lately he's been asking me a lot of questions about s*x. I figure he's just getting a little curious and wanted to know more about it. I don't feel comfortable talking to my little brother about it because I'm so protective of him. Also because I honestly don't really know what to say.

Then the other day he starts talking about how he loves his girlfriend and that they want a child. I told him he was crazy! I also explained that him and her wouldn't last and then he would be paying child support and could absolutely forget about sports.

What more can I tell him? I want him to absolutely think the idea is ridiculous too! Please help.

Answer 1

WOAH! My baby bro is 13 (I'm 26) and I would die if he asked me that... he's 13, he needs to thinking of what video game to buy next week, not kids!!!

I would talk to my mom and hand the situation over to her.  

First of all, at such a young age to be thinking of s*x and having kids is a sign that he craves a family enviroment.  He may be feeling somethings missing from his life and that a kid with his girlfriend will complete it.

This stems much deeper than s*x hormones (its included but...).  This has something to do with the home enviroment that he wants but apparantly isn't getting.

Answer 2

Tell him that if he has s*x, a baby is going to come and then he can not do things teenagers do anymore. You are right about the sports. Tell him that he can never play sports again because he has to a father 24/7. Tell him that he will not be able to hang out with his friends and also talk to your parents. Ask them for advice. They can help as well....

Answer 3

Just tell him that s*x is just unappropriate for him right now and tell him to wait maybe 2 or 3 years.

about his girlfriend, just tell him that you will be sounds really old and will be an annoying granpa when he is only 30 when everybody at his age is enjoying life with s*x

Answer 4

Tell him that s*x is a very private matter and that he needs to learn all about it from his hormone-driven friends!

Answer 5

You are right tell him all the consequences when they do that. They won't probably be happy. You can also tell him if he is really interested into getting into a relationship that deeper, he should take responsibilty already for her girlfriend and the future child and make him think if he can already support them, at that age he is still in school not knowing what life is it outside the real world. Just point it out to him to reflect on himself maybe they are just getting curious about s*x and thinking that having a child is fun and will make them happy but they should also think if that's what they really wanted at this early stage of their lives. They will be diving into a real life battle situation if they really want to do it. Just give him time to think, he will probably know the answer for himself and you can also tell him he might want to spend the his times to his girlfriend first and having a child will come later on if they really decide that they are really meant for each other when they are already emotionally, financially, spiritually and physically secure. Hope you all the best luck to make your brother realize these things. Good luck.

Answer 6

Does he have a father figure inhis life? If he doesnt maybe an older

uncle or cousin should have atalk withhim. Hes atthat age where

hes going to want to explore aboutsex and girls, actually I think hes

starting s*x a little early specially the part about having achild of his

own. Also tell your mom,if youre really close like you say then help

him get thru this.