What do I do about my job?

Question

I have been with a guy for a year now, and I am kicking myself because I wasn't happy with his lack of chivalry, and stingy ways in the beginning! I know it is not very progressive but I love gentlemen, not guys who let the door slam in your face. (80% of the time I open the door for him). He kept telling me that he was just out of practice, that he loved me, and that that wasn't the real him. Well now I got so sick of it that I finally dumped him. The only problem is that I work for his mother. It's a really good job, and I know that she values my work, but how will I deal with the awkwardness tomorrow? Should I look for a new job, or stick out the uncomfortableness?

Answer 1

I think you should look for a new job but don't take it just look then is you are not happy at work you have some thing to fall back on but don't leave your job until you are sure that you cant take the weirdness any more! Becareful don't do any thing you would regret  

Answer 2

Talk to his mother and ask her advice.  After all, she was your prospective Ma-in-law, and she's your employer.  That's what she's there for.  It's only fair to let her know what is going on with her employees.  Did you meet her son before or after you went to work for her?  If you met him after you went to work there, tell her why you stopped seeing her son.  If you have to change jobs later on, do so without hesitation.  But if you can stay with her, maybe you can get her to help her son to become the man you want him to become.  If you still have problems with the situation you can always put in your notice.  If the situation is completely unbearable and you're worried about him stalking you, get out immediately and tell Mom why!  Tomorrow is going to be awkward, no matter what you do.  So you might even call his mother NOW and tell her about what is going on so that she has some advance warning about what to expect when she goes to work.  Keep her in the loop, no matter what.  You might just find you have a valuable ally and a good friend in her.

Answer 3

You go in and tell her your relationship with the son is over and that you hope it will not interfer with your work relationship as you love your job.  The you just have to let matters take their course.  She may think her son is a jerk too.

Answer 4

quit,  working for his mother, you will probably never get promoted, and she will not like you very much.

She may even look for ways to fire you.

Unless you know that she doesn't really think all that highly of her son, then it may be okay.

Answer 5

Suck up all the awkwardness while you search for another job. By the time you find one and leave, thank her.

Answer 6

If you love the job, and his mum likes you stick with it.

It will be super uncomfortable, but so what if you like your job, you should keep it. he sounds like a jerk any way.  

Answer 7

You should stick it out. It will subside. If you really think this is where you want your career to go then stay. If you have nothing to lose then move on.

Answer 8

if you like the job, you should stick with it... if the mom starts to question you or make you feel uncomfortable, you can just be vague about your relationship if she questions, and give a 2 week notice if she starts to play games with you. you might be surprised- she could value your work more than your relationship with her son... but you have to take the high road, and be mature about it.  

Answer 9

stick with it,  if your boss is a good business woman she'll keep you and will talk to you and listen to you and under stand you.  She has to know what kind of a son she has.

Answer 10

I would address the awkwardness head on. Just go up to her and say: "Byt now you probably heard that me and your son broke up.I want you to know that my personal life will not affect my professional life and I will still give you 100% here at work."

Answer 11

You helped me and now Im going to return the favor.

You broke up with him because you felt as you were treated unfair in the beginning which is perfectly fine. If you look scared of his mother she'll try to get the best of you so just stand your ground and do your job as always. If she confronts and tells you to go back with him or she mentions anything about you dumping him tell her straight forward why and say it politely just because you don't like her son doesn't mean you should hurt and old woman's feelings. If she doesn't give you a promotion for your hardwork she's probably holding a grudge and if this continues taalk to a lawyer or better yet you can quit your job and look for a better one but in all due respect just do what you think you should do :] !

Answer 12

If you work directly under his mom, you may think about finding something else just for minds sake.  but legally she cannot fire you for brekaing up with her son.

Plus if he was always saying he was out of practice, he should have learned within a month or so... not over a year and still didn't do anything.

Sounds like you are better off.

Answer 13

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Answer 14

whats that got to do with quitting your job? You need Dr Phil.

Answer 15

I would stick it out. Its not your fault or hers that she has an loser son. LOL. So she should be professional and not even act differently at work. So try to be professional too! And everything should be fine.

Answer 16

I wouldn't think that she'd terminate you out of spite for dumping her son. However, if you think that it's going to create tension in the workplace then maybe you should look for a new job. Who knows you might even find a better opportunity out there...

Answer 17

If you the like the job stick with it.

Answer 18

I dated the owner of my company's daughter for a year several years ago. She works there also so from time to time I run in to my Ex and her mother at work. It is still a little awkward but I love the job so I'm not going to give it up just because there are a few awkward moments. I don't think that many people could have handle the situation as well as I did though.  

Answer 19

It may not be as uncomfortable there as you think. His mother knows him better than you do. She KNOWS how he is. She probably isn't surprised you dumped him. Just be professional, do your job and see how it goes.  

Answer 20

Tell her you just need some time apart and let it go at that.  Continue to do your job as usual.

Answer 21

You can look for another job and see if you can find one that actually competes with the job you are currently holding but I would stick with the job you have. She shouldnt mention it and neither should you.