What do I do about my parents?

Question

My 9 year old brother is always calling me an idiot, a boy, and other various insults for his own amusement, not always because I did something wrong. My sister does the same, not quite as often but often enough. If I do any of these things in my parents' company I'm an angry bully who causes all the arguments in the house. If I start shouting, I'm an angry bully and if I try and explain to my parents why I can't get equal treatment they just waste all their efforts telling me basically to shut the h**l up and how I need to treat my family better.

At 17 and university-bound, I shouldn't have to deal with parents who watch my every move and won't let do, well, anything. Like I said, my 9 year old brother is always calling me a boy or an idiot and while my mom always says **** like "I discipline him, just not when you're around," I haven't seen her hard disciplinary action have any real change in my brother's behavior.

Answer 1

ah just ignore it, they are children and dont know any better.

my little bro is 10 years younger than me (hes 12 now) and was always calling me stupid names, even now he does it, hes just doing it for attention, and TRUST ME, when the kids see you are ignoring them, they will get fed up!

if they see u are annoyed, thats a GREAT reason for them to carry on!

as for your parents, i wouldnt bother about them, you are leaving for uni soon, you will be able to mature into the adult you are wanting to become. its your parents who will have to deals with the kids behavious when you have left home, then we'll see how quick they are to discipline them!

but my main advice, ignore the kids, dont join in with the name calling as it makes them believe its ok and funny. just be the grown up person that unfortunatly your parents are not, and that the children are not able to be yet.

Answer 2

I know what it's like having siblings that are out of control.  I was the youngest in my family, and people treated me like an idiot, especially my oldest brother.  He would torture me, and my parents got to the point where the only response was 'deal with it'.  With kids that young, the only thing you can do is seriously sit down with them and ask why they would say things like that.  Find out why they need to berate you to show anger.  If you explain that it's hurtful and there's a better way to talk, they'll probably follow suit.

You also might want to consider the way you talk to them.  If you yell at them, throw tantrums and call names, you're just teaching them what to do with anger, and you're old enough to know better.  The whole "they started it" defense is out the window.  If you don't teach them before you move out (obviously your parents won't) then it's all they'll know, and they'll have problems making and keeping friends, if they don't have that problem already.  Just be the bigger person, and remember, they're children.  

And, leave your parents out of it.  It only annoys them.  If they were going to help you, it would've happened by now.

Answer 3

ignore your little brother and sister. theyre just kids, and kids can be cruel. they are not yet mature. my aunt has 4 kids. 2 older ones and 2 younger ones, both girl boy. to the older ones she used to beat them [not badly guys, calm down, were spanish] and she used to be very strict with them and dicipline them a lot. with the younger ones, she spoiles them. my cousin [about 11 or 12] knows to much for his age and always callin people names and being really mean. but my aunt doesnt do anything. and when i talk to his older sister, 19, she said her mom would never tolerate anything lik that with her when she was his age. she gets really mad, lik you tell me how you get, but she cant really do anything about it. so i just recommend you ingnore them. there little, theyll get over it someday. you just live your life, and talk  to your mom. not in a mean way, just talk to her and tell her how u feel, & if she doesnt listen then she will understand in later years with consequenses. good luck! i hope i helped! :D