What do I do about my step dad

Question

My little brother lives in AZ, I live in CA. my step dad which is his biological father has very recently made the choice to move to IL where his mother lives. My little brother and I lost our mother nearly 16 months ago to the day. Since then our father has made many bad choices. He fought for my little brother in court only to win and then basically 5 out of 7 days a week pushes him off on my mothers family. He is now using drugs again and were not talking kiddy drugs. Meth and possible cocaine. He 2 days ago said he is packing up and leaving the state to live with his mother. Now I live on my own and started my own family. Needless to say I don't see my little brother often. But I know what his father is doing and I know that if I don't try to stop him my brother could end up in CPS's control very soon if he gets caught in IL with drugs. *little note. His dads mother is a pot head* anyways my family and I have done everything we can to prevent this but he is talking about doing this by midnext week or sooner. I'm driving out tommorow to suprise my step dad to confront him on his descions but I worry it won't be enough.

I will be arriving aug 8 at his front door with nothing more running through my head other then to pop him square in the nose and then see if he wants to talk.

I need all of your opinions out there and any help possible to help me either figure out how to stop him from taking my brother by legal means or by just plain making him see its best for my brother to live with family in AZ. My lil brother has begged his father to let him live with my moms sister and he refuses. And finally option C is there anything I can do to make it impossible to move? Whatever means necessary? Pls help

Answer 1

It’s Aug 8 today, and visiting the man, I do hope you don’t follow up on your impulse (That might cool your rage a bit, but it won’t help your brother’s future)!

It’s not likely for you to be able to stop stepfather’s relocation plans, since he’s not breaking the law doing that. I’m sure there aren’t any ‘good’ foul means to choose from either.

My thought is whether custody cases can be reopened. Perhaps your mother’s family in AZ can file a complaint, about the dad’s drug habits (he will fail the medical test even if he denies the fact) and hence his incapacity to bring up the child?

16 months ago your brother was perhaps too young, and too overwhelmed by the mother’s passing to make an informed choice. Times have changed  Ã¢Â€Â“ now he knows what he wants, the judge just might ask him. The counts should agree that a child needs a secure home, a happy, drug-free environment and consistent parenting habits.

Perhaps it may be possible for the earlier custody award to be overturned? Addictions of the stepfather and his mother might work against them. Might be worth a shot, if the little boy is up to ‘fighting’ for his rights (in the appropriate forum!) You need to consult a good lawyer for this, of course.

Answer 2

Right phone the police RIGHT NOW or child protection services. This guy is a friggin nutter. You need to get him away from the drug induced atmosphere or else he could grow up thinking its okay to do drugs.

If all else fails, destroy your step dads car/van/whatever. It will stop him from moving!

Not very mature but hey! your bro needs help now.

Good luck and stay safe

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Answer 3

Tell your dad "if you do not let my little brother live with me, I will let who ever I need to that you are using drugs." BE firm. Tell him "your can go ruin your life, BUT you are not ruining your little brothers." Do not get all weird and act immature. Be firm, grown up and state facts. Be prepared, for a fight, but I am sure you have your families support on this issue. You do not state your little brothers age or yours...but you can become his legal guardian if you are over 21.