What do I do if I just can't stand an inlaw?

Question

Ok, I just can not stand one of my inlaws. She is very rude and has disrespected me NUMEROUS times. I just can't hold it in anymore. I am a person who tends to hold grudges. I am working on that. But, what do I do for example at Thanksgiving and Christmas when she is there and my blood just boils. She mooches off of family members, she thinks her sh** don't stink. I just can't take her anymore!!! Others in the family have talked about it too but out of respect for her hubby we never say anything. I just can not take it anymore!!

Answer 1

Unless you want to be the troublemaker, keep quiet. No one has spoken up as of yet, so I doubt anyone will. I don't think anyone will take up for you to her face. Just ignore her and don't let her mooch off of you. The next time that someone she has taken advantage of comes to you and gripes, tell them that she is the way she is because they never tell her no and it is their responsibility to stand up for themselves or quit griping. Now, if she is taking advantage of an elderly member of the family, then it is the responsibility of the whole family to stop her.

Answer 2

When she starts to speak, and you KNOW it's gonna set you off.. get up. Leave the table. Excuse yourself to go out for fresh air. Stay away until you know you're going to be able to hold your tongue. No sense in ruining the holidays for everyone.

If she asks to borrow anything.. or acts like she's about to mooch off of you. Just say no.

Think about it, you can deal with her long enough for a couple of holiday meals.. if it means giving the rest of the family happiness.  

Answer 3

Such a touchy subject!!  In laws are kinda a package deal.

I would suggest talking to your husband and allowing him to discuss this with his mother! You are his wife now and she needs to be respectful. And your husband should support you without being disrespectful to his mother.

Best of Luck

Answer 4

Things will come to her... dont worry. You know your better. Just keep your opinions to you and your spouse...  It will all work out someday.. give it time..  

Answer 5

You know, there's one in every family.

They run-off at the mouth and get everyone upset.  It's their way of getting attention maybe.

But you be the lady - show her no attention and concentrate on discussing different things with other members of the family - the ones you like.

Christmas and Thanksgiving are causes for a celebration and be grateful you have a family to share these holidays with.

Good luck