What do I do if I told someone a secret and I don't trust them to not betray me?

Question

A lot of things happened with my boyfriend and I needed advice so i went to my best friend for help. Her and my boyfriend are friends and I knew she wasn't the best person to go to for advice but I figured I could trust her to never mention it to him. Now, her and I are in a fight and I'm scared she's going to tell him the private stuff I told her. I just wanted her help, but I know i still shouldn't have told her. What should I do?

Answer 1

Just talk to her, tell her that what you told her means a great deal to you and for her to please not say anything. Tell her you are sorry and make her understand that you trusted to tell her those things.  

Answer 2

theres nothing you really can do

Answer 3

well it is normal 2 feel tht way but if uve been frnds 4 a long time they prob wont tell but sum people r backstabbers and show there tru colors in a fight soo u really dnt kno wht kinda frnd u hav until ur in a fight jst so u kno if u wanna tell sum1 a seceret then u should tell sum1 tht ur not goin 2 regret trusting. bc they may tell sum1 ur seceret.

Answer 4

^^Too true, you could always tell him first.

Well I suppose you've learned your lesson, there's really nothing you can do except trust her to use her gut. How serious is the fight? It would be really stupid if she tells him just over something stupid. Besides, if its just a fight, how would she feel if she told him and then you two became BFFs again? Well if she DOES tell him, just don't forgive her and don't be her friend at all anymore.

But next time you want advice, just ask Y!A!!!!:D

Oh, and don't feel like you have to suck up to her, thats probably what she wants you to do if you started the fight. You shouldn't have to be on good terms with your best friend just so that she wont tell anyone, thats lamesauce.

Answer 5

pray she wont betray you. and umm.....try to make up with her. OR you can just come clean with you bf about some things and this way he'll already know if she goes to him with it.  Cuz hearing info from someone else....definitely makes things worse.