What do I do in this situation..?

Question

I am a person who stresses about everything!! well, i am into a lot of stuff this year..with school from 8:00a.m.- 5:00p.m. on the weekdays then bible bowl on sunday then swimming on saturday....then swimming meets and compititions periodicly. and i am slmoust in tears because i am so stressed all the time! but if i quite swimming then my mom will be upset but if i quite bible bowl ill be upset (my step dad too)

Answer 1

You have to do what's right for you. What I suggest is that you try answering the question by removing your parents, friends or anyone else that influences your decision from the equation. What do YOU want. Once you know, simply explain to your parents why you feel the way you do and why you want to take a break. You might be surprised at how understanding they might be.

However, if the reason you're stressed is because on top of these things, you're partying on weekends, dealing with friends and their issues instead of your own, etc., you may simply need to learn how to deal with it. If you think your life is hard now, give it 10 years and you'll look back and see these as the easiest days of your life. I wish my only problems were that I had too many things to do. I'm not trying to minimize your concerns because I believe parents are making kids insnae with all the afterschool stuff they have them involved in. But the problems you have may be caused by your own actions, so make sure that that isn't the case before going to your parents and telling them you want to quit something. Chances are, they'll tell you that you simply won't be allowed to go out partying anymore.

What I suggest is a compromise that would make you feel good, doesn't have anything you need to compete for, and would still b e something that your religious parents could get on board with: volunteer with a community program. Choose 1 day to work for a few hours with needy kids, at a soup kitchen, at a woman's shelter, etc. These places depend on help from the community so giving a quick look around i'm sure you'll find somewhere. do an online search for "volunteer in __your town here__" and you'll see a bunch of stuff, i'm sure.

With something like this, there's no stress about if you're going to win or not or if you have to practice or work yourself too much. It's a wonderful thing to do in place of bible bowl that will actually do some good for someone (not to mention looking great on college apps. you can often get extra scholarships or even course credit for the volunteer work you've done).

most importantly, you'll feel good about yourself and you'll see how lucky you are to have the life you have. i know it sounds cheesy but this is what i did and i thank god i did because i met a woman in one of the shelters i worked at. she was running the kitchen. she turned out to be the master chef of a very prestigious restaurant in the area and, through our friendship, she got to know me and ended up offering me a PR position with her company. i started making about 60K a year. So... you never know who you'll meet!!

Answer 2

Think of it as this..you are doing things you like to do such as swimming and bible bowl which is great.  If you didn't do those things you wouldn't be the outgoing person you are.  It's great that you are doing all of that.  Just try to calm down and relax.  Go to bed early, wake up early and eat breakfast.  Whenever you have a day off or time away from things, make sure you give yourself "you" time and relax.

Answer 3

Sit your folks down and explain how you feel.  They should be able to figure out a way to help you.  That's what they are there for.