What do I do now that I found out something bad about these people?

Question

I hired a couple to do outside work for me, carpentry, painting gardening ETC. I have recently found out that the man is a registered s*x offender, now I'm nervous, there has never been any sign of any problem from either of these people while at my home and in my employment, in fact I have trusted both these people explicitly. and like them. The crime took place about 13 years ago. Am I right to give them a chance and keep them in my employment? my thought is , Everyone deserves a second chance. what do you all think?

Answer 1

I have a friend who is a registered s*x offender... he has never done anything weird or even brought the crime up. He is a nice person and I really don't like judging him on what he did in the past.  Unless they s***w up I think you should give them a second chance.  

Answer 2

This is hard to know how to handle, but do you know what the s*x offense was? If it was something that has not been repeated and you say it was 13 years ago, I would say give him the benefit of the doubt. If  it had to do with a child, I would not let a child on the premises or by them while they were working by you. Not that they would repeat the crime, they may have learned their lesson, but knowing info about this means you have to make sure you do not provide them with an opportunity to offend again.

Answer 3

well i think you should keep a watch on them.

and i do think that ppl deserve a 2nd chance, since it was 13 yrs. ago.

yet the crime they did was awful....

Answer 4

if you're okay with it and feel comfortable around them you, then you could give them a second chance but if you aren't completely sure or they make you feel uncomfortable then maybe you should be on the safe side.

Answer 5

Yes it shud be ok... 13 years is a long time...

Answer 6

I would have mixed feelings.  I would be upset that he didn't tell you, but wouldn't blame him for him not telling you.  If you have kids, I would not let them around him, just so he wouldn't be tempted.

Yes, I believe everyone should get a second chance.  He may be honestly trying to turn his life around.  He may want to put it all behind him.  Pray about it and you will know your answer for sure.  You have already hired him and they seem to be doing good work, so I think you made the right decision.

Answer 7

I think it depends on what the crime was? If it was a case of some sort of child sexual exploitation or abuse, I would have no problems telling them that business has slowed down and they need to go. On the other side, if it was a case of, a girl got too drunk and had remorse afterward and called it rape, it's a bit of another issue.

If it wasn't something serious, I would sit him down and ask him about it like a man. No beating around the bush and timid stuff, confront him about it without being an *** about it, and if he can give you a sufficient answer treat him as a changed man.

I don't think everyone deserves a second chance, but many people do. If it was a stupid mistake from his childhood, he will probably be gracious if you treat him with respect where otherwise he has not gotten it.... all depending on his personality of course. On the other hand, if his crime was heinous, you cannot stake your reputation on him, because you are not the only one that has access to the s*x crime registry. Let him go if it was a violent, abusive, or molesting crime against a woman or a child.

Answer 8

We all deserve a second chance. I give you a big thumbs up on keeping them with you if they have not broken your trust. Remember they have paid for their crime.  

Answer 9

That's up to you.

It has been 13 years since the crime.  Do you have the details?  There are 2 sides to every story.  There are so many aspects to what could or could not have happened.  Also, studies show the recidivism normally occurs within the first 5 years after the crime, I think he doesn't want to go back.

I say give him a chance.

Also, I defended clients that were charged with s*x crimes that were ludicrous.  I had one who was charged because he came out of the shower, went to his bedroom and took off the towel, he turned around and didn't realize that his blinds were not fully shut and there were two girls passing by and screamed when they saw him.  Also, a guy was 20 and dated and had s*x with a 17 year old and was charged as a s*x offender.  

So without knowing the details of the crime, it's not anybody's say on here if he did something so heinous or not.

Answer 10

Be aware, but try not to worry too much. Maybe he has changed, and if not then you will be ready if anything happens are you already know his situation. My advice would be to not get too friendly, keep it a professional relationship.

Answer 11

TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE

Answer 12

it depends.  if his crime was something like statutory rape and he was 18 dating a 16 year old whose parents called the cops on him, that's one thing.  if he molested a child or out and out raped someone, that's a bit more harsh.  as a rape survivor i may be a bit biased, but i wouldn't want to have anyone around me who did something like that.